WEBVTT

1
00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:01.360
What is up, my friend?

2
00:00:01.360 --> 00:00:06.580
I wanna talk about something that's so dear to my heart today, which is how do you become

3
00:00:07.600 --> 00:00:08.100
successful?

4
00:00:08.400 --> 00:00:13.780
I see so many people who are struggling with this, and they're struggling with it because they approach it from

5
00:00:14.125 --> 00:00:17.345
the wrong angle. They're approaching it with right wrong

6
00:00:17.645 --> 00:00:18.145
mindset.

7
00:00:18.205 --> 00:00:24.145
I'm gonna set you straight today so that you can be full of joy and success and love and well-being on in all

8
00:00:24.605 --> 00:00:26.064
areas of your life.

9
00:00:26.605 --> 00:00:31.240
Are you up for it? It? I hope so. Alright. If you don't know who I am, my name is Calvin Corelli.

10
00:00:31.240 --> 00:00:33.820
I am the founder and CEO of a software company called

11
00:00:34.280 --> 00:00:34.780
Simplero.

12
00:00:35.320 --> 00:00:35.820
Simplero.

13
00:00:36.360 --> 00:00:37.340
We help coaches

14
00:00:37.720 --> 00:00:39.579
run their coaching business, course creators,

15
00:00:40.125 --> 00:00:44.065
consultants, whatever creators, all of those run their whole thing in one software.

16
00:00:44.524 --> 00:00:49.585
It's so great. It's simple and beautiful and elegant and all the nice things in the world.

17
00:00:49.964 --> 00:00:52.800
People have made a combined 640

18
00:00:52.800 --> 00:00:58.900
something million dollars on Simpliaro, so we've been around for a bit and helped a lot of people make a ton of money.

19
00:00:59.040 --> 00:01:05.540
I think the average that people make on the platform is, like, $50.60 k, which is way higher than any other platform that I've seen.

20
00:01:05.840 --> 00:01:09.215
That's not a a, you know, don't

21
00:01:09.914 --> 00:01:14.875
don't listen to what I just said because I I haven't run those numbers in a while, and there's not a promise,

22
00:01:15.195 --> 00:01:19.774
that you're gonna make money if you're on Zimblero. Just saying. Anyway, successful.

23
00:01:20.820 --> 00:01:23.479
So here's the thing. I see a lot of people

24
00:01:23.939 --> 00:01:30.259
who are in my DMs or at other people's events and stuff who are like, well, how do I become successful?

25
00:01:30.259 --> 00:01:33.939
How do I make some money? And there's like, maybe it's crypto. Let me do crypto. Crypto.

26
00:01:33.939 --> 00:01:39.155
I hear crypto is a shit. Oh, maybe I need to do, like, meme coins or NFTs,

27
00:01:40.095 --> 00:01:45.075
or maybe I can need to get into foreign currency exchange or stocks or

28
00:01:45.455 --> 00:01:48.515
SaaS or maybe there's, like, some I heard about

29
00:01:49.010 --> 00:01:49.510
SPACs

30
00:01:50.530 --> 00:01:51.170
or or,

31
00:01:52.530 --> 00:01:55.650
like, no. No. No. You don't need that. You need funnels. Funnel.

32
00:01:55.650 --> 00:01:59.170
If you have funnels, you can make money. Or, like, oh, maybe I need to do,

33
00:01:59.730 --> 00:02:02.710
like, since do communities. Communities and shit or

34
00:02:03.075 --> 00:02:06.534
info products, or courses, or whatever it is. It's like,

35
00:02:06.915 --> 00:02:10.455
how if your question is how do I make money,

36
00:02:10.914 --> 00:02:15.975
then you're already off on the wrong footing. I think that's the wrong answer.

37
00:02:16.920 --> 00:02:21.099
In this is the wrong question is what I wanna say. It's the wrong question.

38
00:02:21.640 --> 00:02:22.940
What's a better question?

39
00:02:23.720 --> 00:02:27.900
Or why is that a wrong question? Well, it's a wrong question because it's focusing on you.

40
00:02:28.040 --> 00:02:31.245
How do I get? How do I make money?

41
00:02:31.724 --> 00:02:32.625
And I understand.

42
00:02:33.165 --> 00:02:38.144
I understand. For me, way back when, it was in 02/2012,

43
00:02:38.685 --> 00:02:40.305
is when I

44
00:02:40.605 --> 00:02:46.230
had all of my expenses covered through recurring revenue. What is that now? Thirteen years ago.

45
00:02:46.230 --> 00:02:50.410
It was an absolutely life changing moment. I want you to have that experience.

46
00:02:50.870 --> 00:03:00.965
I want you to live that way where your your living expenses are handled with recurring revenue, so you don't need to worry about where the money's gonna come from every month.

47
00:03:01.105 --> 00:03:05.505
Alright? I want that for you. You should want that. It's okay to want that.

48
00:03:05.505 --> 00:03:09.125
You deserve to have that a %, a %.

49
00:03:09.265 --> 00:03:13.710
But when you're starting by asking, how do I make money? How do I make passive income?

50
00:03:13.710 --> 00:03:15.410
People ask me that in the DMs.

51
00:03:15.870 --> 00:03:20.850
It's the wrong frame. It's all about you. And the way that you do it is that you

52
00:03:21.230 --> 00:03:22.690
serve other people.

53
00:03:23.070 --> 00:03:25.490
So instead of, how do I make money?

54
00:03:25.974 --> 00:03:30.235
Ask yourself, how can I serve other people? How can I add value

55
00:03:30.694 --> 00:03:35.175
to other people? What is the wrong that I see in the world that I wanna right?

56
00:03:35.175 --> 00:03:38.635
What's something that's missing in the world that I think should exist?

57
00:03:38.935 --> 00:03:45.390
If you create from that energy, from that place, you're gonna do something that you're way more passionate about.

58
00:03:45.850 --> 00:03:48.910
Way back when I did a software company called,

59
00:03:50.090 --> 00:03:52.990
Reward Job. It was like a job database where

60
00:03:53.370 --> 00:03:54.730
people would get a

61
00:03:55.765 --> 00:03:56.265
people

62
00:03:56.565 --> 00:03:59.305
hiring could put a bounty and say, I'm gonna put

63
00:03:59.685 --> 00:04:01.045
a $5,000

64
00:04:01.045 --> 00:04:01.545
bounty

65
00:04:01.845 --> 00:04:07.545
on this job to that I'm gonna give to someone who introduces me to the person who gets this job.

66
00:04:07.940 --> 00:04:09.299
It was not a bad idea. Right?

67
00:04:09.299 --> 00:04:13.060
Like the idea is that the best people are not out there looking for jobs.

68
00:04:13.060 --> 00:04:21.160
So if we can incentivize someone else to be the connector, the the person who is like like like a headhunter basically, like democratizing headhunting.

69
00:04:21.300 --> 00:04:33.720
Hey, if you if you're someone who likes to read job ads and you know a lot of people, maybe you're gonna be like, hey, you should apply to this job because I think you'd be great, even though you're not the kind of person who looks for jobs.

70
00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:38.200
Seems seemed like a great idea, but the thing was, for me, there was nothing in it.

71
00:04:38.200 --> 00:04:43.660
It was not something that I'm passionate about. It was someone else's idea, and for me, it was like

72
00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:46.220
it's a money making machine. Right?

73
00:04:46.514 --> 00:04:52.535
Like, you have the idea, you believe it can work, you've got he this other person had a a distribution partnership.

74
00:04:52.755 --> 00:04:56.215
I needed to be the technical partner. I built it, and

75
00:04:56.595 --> 00:04:58.535
it went nowhere. It didn't go anywhere

76
00:04:59.490 --> 00:05:01.810
for a variety of reasons, but that's not important.

77
00:05:01.810 --> 00:05:05.669
What's important is that when it didn't work out, I had nothing.

78
00:05:06.129 --> 00:05:08.050
I had and I was like, alright. Didn't work out.

79
00:05:08.050 --> 00:05:12.675
So I ended up losing all that time, all that money, but I didn't have the juice to get going.

80
00:05:13.235 --> 00:05:14.854
Anything worth pursuing

81
00:05:15.395 --> 00:05:21.715
is gonna take 10 times longer than you think and be 10 times harder than you think.

82
00:05:21.715 --> 00:05:25.735
So the question to ask yourself is, if this doesn't work,

83
00:05:26.380 --> 00:05:29.520
you know, at the first try, if this is 10 times harder

84
00:05:29.820 --> 00:05:35.600
than I think it's gonna be and it takes me 10 times longer and maybe but is 10 times more costly

85
00:05:35.980 --> 00:05:38.720
in terms of the investment that I need to make in whatever

86
00:05:39.055 --> 00:05:43.775
tools or technologies or coaching or whatever, is that still what I wanna pursue?

87
00:05:43.775 --> 00:05:44.914
Because if it's not,

88
00:05:45.535 --> 00:05:49.155
don't even start. Don't even start. Ask yourself a better question.

89
00:05:49.534 --> 00:05:53.270
So the main reason that this is a bad question is, number one, it focuses

90
00:05:53.650 --> 00:05:55.110
on you. And number two,

91
00:05:55.650 --> 00:06:01.510
it it gets you into things that you don't have the intention to finish when it gets hard, and it will.

92
00:06:01.730 --> 00:06:02.870
It will get hard.

93
00:06:03.170 --> 00:06:03.670
So

94
00:06:04.210 --> 00:06:09.125
how can you serve other people? What value can you add is a much better question.

95
00:06:09.125 --> 00:06:11.945
That's kind of the premise behind this book that I wrote called

96
00:06:12.324 --> 00:06:13.544
Show Up and Serve.

97
00:06:13.925 --> 00:06:14.665
The idea

98
00:06:15.205 --> 00:06:20.264
being that if you show up every day with a mindset, with an intention to serve

99
00:06:20.880 --> 00:06:21.620
other people,

100
00:06:22.240 --> 00:06:22.979
you will

101
00:06:23.440 --> 00:06:25.139
get to a really good place

102
00:06:25.520 --> 00:06:27.600
in the end. It might take a while.

103
00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:34.180
Everything worthwhile takes a while, but you will get to an incredible place if you show up from a place of service

104
00:06:34.815 --> 00:06:36.675
every single day.

105
00:06:38.175 --> 00:06:38.895
Some of those,

106
00:06:39.215 --> 00:06:44.595
of the OGs in the room are probably familiar with a guy named Zig Ziglar. He died some years ago.

107
00:06:45.055 --> 00:06:46.275
He was like an early,

108
00:06:47.400 --> 00:06:51.320
he was a sales guy. I think he was, like, motivational speaker. He's definitely a speaker. Whatever.

109
00:06:51.320 --> 00:06:59.340
One of the things he said was, you can get what you want if you'll only help enough other people get what they want.

110
00:06:59.640 --> 00:07:02.415
That's the essence of it. That's the essence of it.

111
00:07:02.415 --> 00:07:07.235
If you can help other people get help get what they want, you can get what you want.

112
00:07:07.294 --> 00:07:13.635
So instead of how do I get, how do I make money, ask yourself, how can I serve?

113
00:07:13.854 --> 00:07:16.560
How can I figure out what it is that other people want

114
00:07:17.120 --> 00:07:18.560
and get that to them?

115
00:07:18.560 --> 00:07:24.100
And maybe I don't have the skills right now, but then I can acquire the skills that help them get what they want.

116
00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:28.560
K? So I get someone who's like, I'm into marketing. Well, then learn marketing.

117
00:07:28.560 --> 00:07:30.075
There's so much free material

118
00:07:30.615 --> 00:07:31.435
on the interwebs,

119
00:07:31.895 --> 00:07:32.395
YouTube,

120
00:07:32.695 --> 00:07:33.195
X,

121
00:07:33.815 --> 00:07:36.075
all the platforms, Google, ChatGBT,

122
00:07:36.455 --> 00:07:38.075
all the places. There's so much

123
00:07:38.455 --> 00:07:39.514
knowledge available,

124
00:07:39.815 --> 00:07:43.915
and then go to someone who wants more customers. Who wants more customers?

125
00:07:44.750 --> 00:07:45.250
Everybody.

126
00:07:45.949 --> 00:07:48.610
Every single business that have ever existed

127
00:07:48.990 --> 00:07:54.690
wants more customers. Right? So pick a a business that you like. Maybe it's a friend of yours.

128
00:07:54.830 --> 00:07:58.770
Maybe it's someone down the the street, whatever. You say, hey.

129
00:07:59.265 --> 00:08:01.925
If I worked for free at my expense

130
00:08:02.305 --> 00:08:05.365
to get you new customers, would you let me do that?

131
00:08:05.665 --> 00:08:11.910
And a lot of people are gonna say no because for them it's not free because they still need to to put their time into it.

132
00:08:11.990 --> 00:08:14.870
It's not free because you might do something that ruins their reputation.

133
00:08:14.870 --> 00:08:19.290
So you have to understand that even though you think it's free, it's not free to them.

134
00:08:19.510 --> 00:08:24.490
So sweeten the pot or work with people who already you already know, who trust you, build a relationship,

135
00:08:25.105 --> 00:08:28.805
or do something to demonstrate value upfront. You're like,

136
00:08:29.105 --> 00:08:34.325
I could like, let me write something that would really, like, really watch all your like,

137
00:08:34.705 --> 00:08:39.044
Calvin, I've watched all your videos. Here's what I would do for the caption for this.

138
00:08:39.105 --> 00:08:43.290
And And I think if you test that, you will see that it does way better than what you've done.

139
00:08:43.290 --> 00:08:50.590
And then if you're interested in working with me, happy to work with you for free for three months to demonstrate that I can do what I say I can do.

140
00:08:50.810 --> 00:08:51.550
And then

141
00:08:51.975 --> 00:08:56.394
chances are you'll have a gig. Right? So it's like figure out what other people want and then

142
00:08:56.695 --> 00:08:58.714
help them get that in advance.

143
00:08:59.175 --> 00:09:00.695
That's how you make progress.

144
00:09:00.695 --> 00:09:05.735
So and understand, like, not everybody can do that and you have made you need a way to make money and all of that.

145
00:09:05.735 --> 00:09:06.120
So

146
00:09:06.600 --> 00:09:11.420
find a way to make money. Right? Get a job. But if you get any job and you just outperform

147
00:09:11.960 --> 00:09:14.860
every step of the way, you're gonna rise very quickly.

148
00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:20.460
This world is not complicated. It's not hard. And most people are lazy AF,

149
00:09:20.935 --> 00:09:26.635
and most people are not very smart or very bright or very interested in studying or learning anything.

150
00:09:27.095 --> 00:09:28.395
So if you spend

151
00:09:28.775 --> 00:09:30.075
all your free time

152
00:09:30.455 --> 00:09:33.275
learning stuff on YouTube, on the Internet,

153
00:09:33.830 --> 00:09:42.570
watching stuff like this, improving your mindset, improving your thinking, improving your skill set, and then applying it to to people where you give first

154
00:09:43.030 --> 00:09:46.810
without asking anything in return, you're gonna get everything

155
00:09:47.190 --> 00:09:51.785
that you want on the other side of that. I remember I had a I had a personal trainer sometime

156
00:09:52.485 --> 00:09:54.585
years ago. His name is was was Naftali.

157
00:09:55.045 --> 00:09:56.825
He's a great guy and,

158
00:09:59.045 --> 00:10:09.000
and he would not only work out with me and I'd pay him for that, of course, but then he would on his own, and he told me this later, he would pray for his clients,

159
00:10:09.620 --> 00:10:13.240
for their success and well-being and for them to be prosperous.

160
00:10:13.300 --> 00:10:16.260
Like, that's something that he just did on his own time.

161
00:10:16.260 --> 00:10:18.555
He didn't tell his clients about it, but just like,

162
00:10:19.515 --> 00:10:24.495
when you're his client, he's gonna just keep you in his in the back of his mind and keep praying for your success.

163
00:10:24.635 --> 00:10:32.495
And I will tell you during that time period that I work with him, maybe I should hire him again, during that time when I work with him, my revenues, like,

164
00:10:32.955 --> 00:10:37.350
grew by leaps and bounds. Maybe I should hire him again just for freaking that.

165
00:10:37.410 --> 00:10:39.350
But if you approach that mindset

166
00:10:39.810 --> 00:10:40.870
in your life,

167
00:10:41.410 --> 00:10:45.270
good things are gonna come to you. Right? If you have

168
00:10:45.650 --> 00:10:46.470
an intention,

169
00:10:47.505 --> 00:10:48.165
a prayer,

170
00:10:48.865 --> 00:10:56.805
a a mindset that says that everyone who comes into your life is gonna be so much better because they're in your life,

171
00:10:57.185 --> 00:10:59.205
good things are gonna come to you. Right?

172
00:10:59.425 --> 00:11:06.560
If everybody who comes into your life gets incredibly happy and fulfilled and joyous and rich,

173
00:11:07.260 --> 00:11:07.760
surely,

174
00:11:08.220 --> 00:11:09.680
you will be the same.

175
00:11:10.300 --> 00:11:12.480
Do you hear me? Do you hear what I'm saying?

176
00:11:12.780 --> 00:11:16.960
Like, make that your intention and both on a on a on a metaphysical

177
00:11:17.420 --> 00:11:22.295
intention level because that shit works. That shit really fucking works.

178
00:11:22.675 --> 00:11:25.735
So just set the intention and really visualize that.

179
00:11:25.795 --> 00:11:30.595
Visualize that everyone who comes into your world, everyone who watches I'm doing it right now.

180
00:11:30.595 --> 00:11:39.670
Everybody who watches this video, here are any of my videos, who watches any of my stuff online, who comes into the Simplera Universe or my coaching or whatever.

181
00:11:40.450 --> 00:11:41.270
May they

182
00:11:41.730 --> 00:11:42.470
be blessed

183
00:11:42.930 --> 00:11:43.910
with an abundance

184
00:11:44.290 --> 00:11:45.110
of health

185
00:11:45.635 --> 00:11:47.335
and joy and wealth

186
00:11:47.715 --> 00:11:49.975
and wonderful nurturing relationships,

187
00:11:50.675 --> 00:11:53.575
deep connection with themselves and their God and their spirituality.

188
00:11:54.675 --> 00:12:02.420
Be so creative in everything that they do and feel like their life has meaning and purpose every moment of every day.

189
00:12:02.480 --> 00:12:05.939
That is my wish for you and for everybody who's in my life.

190
00:12:06.240 --> 00:12:07.379
That is my intention.

191
00:12:07.920 --> 00:12:13.379
If you do that and you then follow through with actions in big and small,

192
00:12:14.505 --> 00:12:16.445
amazing shit's gonna happen in your life.

193
00:12:16.905 --> 00:12:17.565
I mean,

194
00:12:18.985 --> 00:12:22.525
how can it not? Do you hear what I'm saying? How can it not?

195
00:12:23.305 --> 00:12:23.805
So

196
00:12:24.345 --> 00:12:26.525
if that is your focus and your intention,

197
00:12:27.145 --> 00:12:30.940
don't worry about the money. The money is gonna show up.

198
00:12:30.940 --> 00:12:33.759
The money is gonna you're gonna be rich beyond belief

199
00:12:34.139 --> 00:12:36.319
if this is your attitude and you keep

200
00:12:36.699 --> 00:12:37.199
doing

201
00:12:37.500 --> 00:12:38.000
that.

202
00:12:38.779 --> 00:12:43.334
Now what often happens is people get to a certain level and then they're like, woah. Sure.

203
00:12:43.334 --> 00:12:52.074
And then things plateau maybe because there's usually these, like, growth plateaus at, like, one and three and one and three, like, ten and thirty and a 300 and whatever.

204
00:12:52.135 --> 00:12:55.495
Like, it tends to grow in in those in those levels more or less.

205
00:12:55.495 --> 00:12:59.440
And so there's this kind of plateau, and then people start focusing on themselves again.

206
00:12:59.440 --> 00:13:04.880
It's like, it's not growing and there's focusing on what they don't want, the problem like, oh, the revenue is not growing.

207
00:13:04.880 --> 00:13:06.019
Why am I what I think?

208
00:13:06.320 --> 00:13:10.880
You're focused on the wrong wrong thing. Focus go back to what's working.

209
00:13:10.880 --> 00:13:19.025
Go back to focusing on the people you're here to serve and how you're here to serve them and blessing everybody who comes into your world.

210
00:13:19.405 --> 00:13:21.745
Focus on that. Get back to that focus.

211
00:13:22.045 --> 00:13:22.545
Yeah.

212
00:13:22.845 --> 00:13:28.930
It's it's so funny because, like, when you're in the beginning, like, that first like, I remember when I was, like, making

213
00:13:29.630 --> 00:13:31.870
consistently, like, $5,000

214
00:13:31.870 --> 00:13:36.270
a month from software revenue. Right? And it was, like, every month it would be a little bit more.

215
00:13:36.270 --> 00:13:38.265
I'm like, oh my god. It's exciting. And today,

216
00:13:38.825 --> 00:13:41.545
And today, like, $5,000

217
00:13:41.545 --> 00:13:41.855
is not enough to get me out of bed. Right?

218
00:13:41.855 --> 00:13:44.365
Like, if someone's like, I'm gonna pay you 5,000 for this. I'm like,

219
00:13:45.465 --> 00:13:48.845
Like, it's not enough for me to to get me motivated, but

220
00:13:49.785 --> 00:13:51.405
that mindset back there,

221
00:13:51.730 --> 00:14:00.310
like, was like the joy of all the little things and so we kinda get accustomed and we're like, oh, but why is not this and so

222
00:14:00.690 --> 00:14:02.790
forget all of that. Focus on

223
00:14:03.330 --> 00:14:05.190
what how you can serve others.

224
00:14:07.175 --> 00:14:12.055
Focus on how you can serve others, how you can bless others, add value to other people's lives.

225
00:14:12.055 --> 00:14:18.154
I stopped thinking because I'm like, there's there's so much I wanna share with you guys, and I I have to, like,

226
00:14:18.535 --> 00:14:20.795
narrow it down so one video has

227
00:14:21.120 --> 00:14:25.380
a topic, but I have a programmer's mind. You'll probably notice this as you watch these videos.

228
00:14:25.840 --> 00:14:30.000
In in programming, we we it's like a stack stacking system. Right?

229
00:14:30.000 --> 00:14:38.404
So we rewrite some code and then that calls a function, then calls another function, that calls another function, that calls another function, and that can go that goes like very, very deep.

230
00:14:38.404 --> 00:14:42.185
Like the stack can can can go super, super deep, like hundreds of layers.

231
00:14:42.644 --> 00:14:46.320
And so then when you that's kinda how my mind works now.

232
00:14:46.400 --> 00:14:54.080
I think that way, and so I'll be in the middle of talking about something and I'll, like, oh, wait, I need to double click on this and go deeper, so then I go into that.

233
00:14:54.080 --> 00:14:57.440
And then I'm like, oh, as I'm explaining that, I'm like, there's another function call.

234
00:14:57.440 --> 00:15:00.015
I need to double click on that and explain that and then do that.

235
00:15:00.015 --> 00:15:04.335
And then eventually, I will work my way back up the stack, but that's how my mind works.

236
00:15:04.335 --> 00:15:05.395
So every kinda

237
00:15:05.855 --> 00:15:09.875
every sentence opens a whole can of worms that I kinda wanna go into. And,

238
00:15:11.055 --> 00:15:17.600
I I I know. Like, it's just a quirk of how my mind operates. You can, enjoy it or be annoyed by it.

239
00:15:17.600 --> 00:15:18.899
You it's your choice.

240
00:15:19.680 --> 00:15:25.860
Anyway, bottom line here is focus on them, not on you, and good things will happen

241
00:15:26.320 --> 00:15:26.980
to you.

242
00:15:27.285 --> 00:15:28.584
That's my point here.

243
00:15:28.885 --> 00:15:30.584
Do that. Put this into practice.

244
00:15:31.125 --> 00:15:34.584
It will not fail. I promise you. It will not fail.

245
00:15:35.764 --> 00:15:41.945
The other thing is that that as you help other people, that makes you feel better.

246
00:15:42.290 --> 00:15:45.510
It makes you feel good. It feels better to help someone else

247
00:15:45.890 --> 00:15:47.010
than to help ourselves.

248
00:15:47.010 --> 00:15:50.790
We'll do more for other people than we'll do for ourselves and it makes us feel good.

249
00:15:50.850 --> 00:15:55.830
It makes us feel so much better. And then as you do that, as you feel better,

250
00:15:56.334 --> 00:16:01.475
you're gonna attract better things because your feeling state is gonna be the thing that attracts

251
00:16:02.015 --> 00:16:06.355
the things that you want into your life. So the more that you put yourself in situations

252
00:16:06.975 --> 00:16:11.475
where you feel amazing, the more good things are gonna happen and helping others

253
00:16:11.990 --> 00:16:15.850
does feel amazing when it's coming from the selfless place of, like,

254
00:16:16.230 --> 00:16:19.050
just the joy of giving, the joy of giving.

255
00:16:19.510 --> 00:16:21.850
There's other reasons too. Like, you we you

256
00:16:22.230 --> 00:16:24.649
you get better. They you they say,

257
00:16:25.145 --> 00:16:27.085
see one, do one, teach one.

258
00:16:27.545 --> 00:16:33.005
As you teach stuff, you get better at the thing, and so that's awesome. Teach

259
00:16:33.465 --> 00:16:38.190
more people more stuff or help people more with more things that will get you better at it.

260
00:16:38.270 --> 00:16:44.990
Every time I coach my clients, I'm like, oh, I should practice that or we should go back and implement that in my company.

261
00:16:44.990 --> 00:16:46.290
It's always the fundamentals

262
00:16:46.990 --> 00:16:52.154
that we forget that we screw up and then we get, like, on with the next shiny objects and the van advanced thing.

263
00:16:52.154 --> 00:16:56.975
And it's not it's always back to the fundamentals, and it's the same for everybody. I forget too.

264
00:16:57.435 --> 00:16:59.214
My team forgets. Right? So

265
00:16:59.755 --> 00:17:03.454
don't blame yourself for that. But, anyway, I'm gonna wrap up here and just say,

266
00:17:04.060 --> 00:17:07.500
help enough other people get that what they want and you will get what you want.

267
00:17:07.500 --> 00:17:12.480
Focus on serving other people like I talk about in my book, Show Up and Serve.

268
00:17:12.940 --> 00:17:20.934
Focus on how you can bless and add value to everybody in your life and everything good that you desire is gonna be on the other side of that.

269
00:17:20.994 --> 00:17:22.214
It's the same in relationships.

270
00:17:22.675 --> 00:17:24.855
Right? When you're in your marriage or your

271
00:17:25.555 --> 00:17:27.575
significant other, you're like,

272
00:17:28.355 --> 00:17:29.335
how can like,

273
00:17:29.635 --> 00:17:35.470
I'm not fulfilled here. My needs are not met. Yeah. Blah blah blah. Right? Me me me me me.

274
00:17:35.770 --> 00:17:36.590
If you

275
00:17:38.010 --> 00:17:39.950
decide to focus on

276
00:17:40.330 --> 00:17:40.830
meeting

277
00:17:41.210 --> 00:17:42.990
all of your partner's needs

278
00:17:43.290 --> 00:17:45.790
at an eight to 10 out of 10

279
00:17:46.475 --> 00:17:52.875
for three months, I guarantee you, you will find that your needs are perfectly met, perfectly well.

280
00:17:52.875 --> 00:17:53.375
Alright?

281
00:17:54.555 --> 00:17:56.575
There's the six basic human needs,

282
00:17:56.955 --> 00:17:57.455
certainty,

283
00:17:58.075 --> 00:17:58.575
uncertainty,

284
00:17:59.600 --> 00:18:00.100
significance,

285
00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:05.300
love and connection, growth, and contribution. If you make your partner feel certain

286
00:18:05.760 --> 00:18:11.220
that you're always gonna be there and that you love them, and you give them so much uncertainty and variety,

287
00:18:11.524 --> 00:18:12.024
Uncertainty,

288
00:18:12.404 --> 00:18:16.985
another word for that is variety. Like, so much fun that she never knows what to expect from you,

289
00:18:17.524 --> 00:18:19.284
but she still feels very certain. Right?

290
00:18:19.284 --> 00:18:23.284
So it's, like, playful and and, like, who's who are you gonna meet today? I don't know.

291
00:18:23.284 --> 00:18:25.549
Like, what feeling are you gonna make her feel today?

292
00:18:26.090 --> 00:18:26.750
And then

293
00:18:27.370 --> 00:18:32.590
you do that at an eight to 10 out of 10, and then you make her feel significant. Like,

294
00:18:33.049 --> 00:18:38.505
there's no other person, there's no other thing that's more significant in your life than she is.

295
00:18:38.745 --> 00:18:44.925
Not your work, not your kids, not your parents, not your mom, not your nothing

296
00:18:45.385 --> 00:18:46.525
is more important

297
00:18:47.145 --> 00:18:49.085
than she is in your world.

298
00:18:49.385 --> 00:18:50.520
Right? And then

299
00:18:51.000 --> 00:18:54.840
you make her feel so loved and so connected to you. You show up.

300
00:18:54.840 --> 00:19:00.220
I'm talking to men now, obviously, but women, you turn around for you. But you show up with calm

301
00:19:00.760 --> 00:19:07.245
presence with her every time you see her. You're always present with her. You feel connected to her.

302
00:19:07.245 --> 00:19:09.105
You're there with her, whatever happens.

303
00:19:09.485 --> 00:19:12.304
And then you make her feel like she's always growing.

304
00:19:12.605 --> 00:19:17.585
She can grow with you, that that that she's always learning something new and expanding,

305
00:19:18.070 --> 00:19:19.610
and that she gets to contribute

306
00:19:20.230 --> 00:19:24.570
to you or to the world or to someone else, like, you enable her ability to contribute.

307
00:19:24.950 --> 00:19:27.290
If you meet all of those six needs,

308
00:19:27.670 --> 00:19:33.775
she ain't ever leaving a b, and you're gonna find that your needs are gonna be met pretty darn soon.

309
00:19:34.075 --> 00:19:35.295
So it's the same principle.

310
00:19:35.915 --> 00:19:38.815
Give first and then expect to no.

311
00:19:39.115 --> 00:19:42.735
Give first and don't expect to receive anything. Be open

312
00:19:43.035 --> 00:19:43.775
to receiving.

313
00:19:44.235 --> 00:19:46.950
Like, that's another skill that a lot of us have trouble with.

314
00:19:46.950 --> 00:19:55.350
It's easier to give than to receive because we don't feel worthy or all kinds of things come up where we feel maybe we were obligated to receive, then we have some obligation.

315
00:19:55.350 --> 00:19:57.610
There's all that stuff that comes in around receiving.

316
00:19:58.304 --> 00:20:00.804
But if you give without an expectation

317
00:20:01.184 --> 00:20:05.044
to receive and then you open your receiving channel, which is about

318
00:20:05.345 --> 00:20:06.725
being in a state of gratitude,

319
00:20:07.184 --> 00:20:10.170
it is gonna come to you. It is gonna come back to you.

320
00:20:10.410 --> 00:20:14.030
But don't have the expectation because now it's a horse trade. Now it's a transaction.

321
00:20:14.330 --> 00:20:16.110
That's not what we're trying to do here.

322
00:20:16.250 --> 00:20:22.750
We're trying to just give selflessly and trust that life of the universe is gonna bring it back to us.

323
00:20:22.810 --> 00:20:27.505
It's the same when you're in a job. Well, I don't get paid enough to do this.

324
00:20:27.565 --> 00:20:32.865
Like, when I, like, when I get paid more, then I'll do. No. That's not how that works.

325
00:20:33.245 --> 00:20:34.225
Give more.

326
00:20:34.685 --> 00:20:39.165
Give more than than what's expected. Show up ten minutes early. It's funny.

327
00:20:39.165 --> 00:20:44.110
This building here we have, on the Ninth Floor, there's a swimming pool and a sauna and this whole pool.

328
00:20:44.110 --> 00:20:48.370
And the pool area opens at seven, and I'm at the gym usually at that time.

329
00:20:48.429 --> 00:20:51.809
And so I see the guy come in every day at 07:10,

330
00:20:51.870 --> 00:20:54.850
seven fifteen, seven eleven, seven zero nine. Like,

331
00:20:55.415 --> 00:20:58.794
if this was my business, I would have people show

332
00:20:59.095 --> 00:21:03.915
up ten I would have that guy show up ten minutes before his shift starts. Alright?

333
00:21:03.975 --> 00:21:08.955
And if it was me that was that guy, I would show up ten minutes before that shift starts

334
00:21:09.255 --> 00:21:16.460
even if nobody fucking notices, even if I don't get paid a dime more, even if I don't get any praise from my manager, from my company,

335
00:21:16.760 --> 00:21:17.580
none of that.

336
00:21:17.720 --> 00:21:23.985
I do it for me because I want to over deliver and I wanna stay a little bit late as well and make sure that I

337
00:21:24.545 --> 00:21:29.525
people get out of there easily. Like, give more than what's expected.

338
00:21:30.145 --> 00:21:33.205
Give more and you will be rewarded eventually.

339
00:21:33.265 --> 00:21:38.490
If not by this employer, then by someone else because your attitude is gonna show. Right?

340
00:21:38.490 --> 00:21:44.670
And when you do it just without the expectation of getting anything back, but just because it feels good

341
00:21:45.530 --> 00:21:54.715
to give more than what's expected, to give what you have to offer rather than metering it out like, oh, this person deserves this much.

342
00:21:55.815 --> 00:21:56.555
What kind

343
00:21:56.855 --> 00:21:58.635
of BS is that? Right?

344
00:21:58.935 --> 00:21:59.435
Give.

345
00:21:59.975 --> 00:22:03.815
Give, give, give, give, give because that's what we're here to do. Same thing with your content.

346
00:22:03.815 --> 00:22:05.355
A lot of people are like, well,

347
00:22:05.659 --> 00:22:11.580
that stuff, it doesn't go on my search because that's reserved to my high ticket clients like, oh, no.

348
00:22:11.580 --> 00:22:13.679
This trick I only tell to my

349
00:22:14.140 --> 00:22:15.179
$80,000

350
00:22:15.179 --> 00:22:15.679
mastermind

351
00:22:16.140 --> 00:22:17.120
clients, whatever.

352
00:22:17.500 --> 00:22:19.440
BS, give it all away.

353
00:22:19.695 --> 00:22:27.875
Give it all away because what's gonna happen is people are gonna be attracted to you and then they're gonna be like, yeah, I could watch like literally every one of your

354
00:22:28.335 --> 00:22:37.180
YouTube videos but I know that being in the room with you, having direct access to you, like, learning specifically from you, even in a course format

355
00:22:37.560 --> 00:22:41.020
that goes through it systematically in detail in sequence

356
00:22:41.400 --> 00:22:42.700
is gonna be more valuable,

357
00:22:43.240 --> 00:22:46.700
and I I'm gonna feel better. And keep in mind, like,

358
00:22:47.115 --> 00:22:54.315
money is just an energy exchange. Right? So, like, I'll pay like, sometimes I pay $20.30, $4,050,000

359
00:22:54.315 --> 00:22:57.135
dollars or a hundred thousand dollars, sometimes $500,000

360
00:22:57.195 --> 00:22:59.215
for things that ended up not really

361
00:22:59.830 --> 00:23:03.610
doing what they're supposed to do in my life, but I don't mind because

362
00:23:04.070 --> 00:23:07.830
that money is just circulating. Now it's somewhere else and someone else is enjoying it.

363
00:23:07.830 --> 00:23:09.450
It's giving it giving their life,

364
00:23:10.550 --> 00:23:16.095
more richness, and then they can they're gonna give it to someone else they probably did a long time ago and that person has more.

365
00:23:16.095 --> 00:23:17.875
Like money just keeps circulating.

366
00:23:18.015 --> 00:23:22.335
That's the game, so don't worry about like losing out on anything. Well, I gave too much here.

367
00:23:22.335 --> 00:23:24.755
I paid too much for it. Like whatever, it doesn't matter.

368
00:23:25.090 --> 00:23:26.630
Money is an infinite supply,

369
00:23:27.010 --> 00:23:32.710
so is love, so is energy. Just give of it. Give, give, give, give, give, give.

370
00:23:33.090 --> 00:23:37.190
Be willing to receive. Open your reception channels. Do not make a transaction.

371
00:23:37.570 --> 00:23:39.275
You got this. This is incredible.

372
00:23:39.815 --> 00:23:44.475
You're in for a an incredible life when you make this your mantra.

373
00:23:45.735 --> 00:23:48.395
With that, I will see you in the next video.

374
00:23:48.535 --> 00:23:53.758
Make sure to subscribe and follow and click the bell icon and tell all your friends

375
00:23:54.218 --> 00:23:55.998
and just practice this.