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Whatever you give others, you are literally giving to yourself.

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You might hate somebody else, but who's the one that's feeling the hate?

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Who are you really giving it to? The assumption is that you're giving that to somebody else,

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which is also like saying

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you might think you're withholding love from somebody else, but where is the withholding of love felt?

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At the core,

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you're only seeking one thing,

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and at the core, you're only afraid of one thing. And here's the beauty of it all,

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the thing you're afraid of

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is impossible.

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The absence of love

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because life is love.

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It's interwoven into everything.

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So this fear that we have of love's absence

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is really just an innocent misunderstanding.

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And this is the misunderstanding

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that we are

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clarifying

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on our human journey,

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which is also like saying

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we're on a human journey

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to see that there's nothing to be afraid of.

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And the more you see that there's nothing to be afraid of,

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then the more you can allow love to flow.

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Right? Do you see this?

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Like if your fear is

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the fear of love's absence

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and then you realize that that fear isn't really there,

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which means there is love to be shared.

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There is love there.

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This is the expansion of love,

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the continuation

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of love,

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the flow of love,

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which is only blocked by fear,

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which is blocked by an innocent misunderstanding

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that thinks there's something to be afraid of, which is also to say that thinks there's an appropriate reason for withholding love.

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When really that reason is an innocent misunderstanding

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that does not see the big picture.

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Just like in our illustration

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of the lightning in the storm,

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you might assume

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that the lightning and the storm are ugly,

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and you say, oh, that's ugly.

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I don't wanna love that.

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Or that scares me. It's in the way.

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It's not giving me what I want. I want the sunshine.

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Therefore,

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it's not allowed to be what it is. I withhold love.

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But then you realize that everything is as it is only because of lightning and the storm.

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And then you realize, oh my goodness, I'm sorry.

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I didn't see you.

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I didn't see what you really were.

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I didn't see how much you are an integral part of this whole thing.

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You are this whole thing.

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Do you see the nature of the misunderstanding?

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I didn't see the bigger picture.

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This is the nature of compassion, which is a flavor of love.

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Right. Just like with any human being,

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if you have judgment towards them, it's quite obvious that you don't see the bigger picture of them.

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Right? Like, if you could see the totality of their existence,

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the seen and the unseen,

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there would be an immensity of compassion.

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Right? There would be an immensity of understanding

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that makes their experience make perfect sense.

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And you see the

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gate that opens

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that allows love to flow.

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And this isn't to make declarations

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how compassion moves, what it does or doesn't do,

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but it very much does say

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that compassion shows itself

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and that however you do end up moving

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is quite different

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than moving from a place of judgment and fear.

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And you know what's wild too here,

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and this also comes back to the purpose of it all,

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is in recognizing

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whatever you give others,

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you are literally giving to yourself.

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So to judge and condemn somebody else,

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that's quite an ugly feeling.

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Do you notice that?

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And the assumption is that you're giving that to somebody else,

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like hate.

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You might hate somebody else, but who's the one that's feeling the hate?

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Who are you really giving it to?

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Which is also like saying

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you might think you're withholding

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love from somebody else,

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but where is the withholding of love felt?

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This is wild

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and profoundly true,

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that whatever you give is what you receive.

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And so if it seems like there is a lack of love,

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we are giving a lack of love.

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And again, it's not to blame.

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It's to point towards the mechanism of how this works.

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It's to see that, oh, there is an innocent misunderstanding

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that when you trace it back,

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points to how you see yourself.

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Meaning,

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if you see others

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with eyes that are not loving,

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that's only made possible because you see yourself with unloving eyes.

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Which is why it's such a beautiful reflection

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to find yourself seeing others with unloving eyes,

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because it's trying to get you to see how you see yourself

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with unloving eyes.

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And you see,

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the function of all of this and, again, I could just sit here for days and weeks and months and

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ramble on and on, but

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the fundamental pointer that I'm alluding to

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is that you are rested within a landscape that we call life,

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that is profoundly

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sacred.

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And let's just call it consciously designed

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to hold space

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for your human journey,

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which is incredibly intentional

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with the purpose

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of supporting you in fully being yourself,

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which is only an extension

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of increasing the amount of love

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that you give to yourself,

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which

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by extension

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is a love that flows out into the world.

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This is the journey you're on. This is the journey every human being is on,

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and it looks different for different human beings,

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And every human being

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is on the exact journey

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that is designed for them,

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regardless of any judgments or interpretations

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we might have about their journey.

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Right? Again,

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you can look at the journey of a storm

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and think, Oh, well, it's not very enlightened. It's making a bunch of noise.

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No, it's exactly where it's supposed to be.

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It's exactly

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on the journey that life has asked it to go on,

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which is in service to the whole. Whether or not you can see it doesn't matter.

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And this is the thing about not needing to see it because it's the truth of everything.

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Right? You don't have to understand someone's story

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to understand

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that they are already seen with loving eyes by life.

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Do you see this?

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Everything is already forgiven.

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Everything is already worthy of compassion,

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because it's already part of the bigger picture.

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Which is why,

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in one way,

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you just need to see the bigger picture of life as a whole and not necessarily

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the bigger picture of the 10,000 pieces.

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Because when you see the bigger picture of the whole,

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then you see the bigger picture of everything,

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because everything is everything.

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The tree is life.

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The stars are life. The storm is life. My neighbor is life.

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The barista

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is life.

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Which in another way of speaking using words,

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it's also like saying from a religious context,

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see the truth of God and you will see God in everyone's eyes that you look into.

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It's just saying the same thing.

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My goodness.

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If anything, maybe this invites you to take a big deep breath.

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A big deep breath.

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Because, again,

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so often what makes this human journey difficult, and I'm speaking from personal experience as I'm participating

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in this human game with you,

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is that we forget the point of it all.

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We think it's about

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our plans. We think it's about where we're going.

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being approved of by others.

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Right? There's 10,000 things that we mistake as the purpose of life,

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which keep us spinning in the mind and disconnected from the real point.

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That's why it's important to have moments like this

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where we take a breath and remember what's really true.

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And more and more,

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this simply becomes our devotion.

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More and more, we realize

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this is the most important thing,

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to see the truth.

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Because as you see it, then the truth moves through you.

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Which,

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again, in another way, you can replace truth with love.

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To see the reality of love,

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and then to have that love flow through you.

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It's the most important thing, and it gets to flow through you in beautifully creative ways

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that are in alignment with the uniqueness of what you are as a human being.

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Right again.

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The tree is a tree

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designed to be what it is, and it fulfills a beautiful function

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that only a tree can.

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You are you.

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Designed as you are,

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which can only fulfill a beautiful function

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that only you can.

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The question is,

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are you going to show up to that invitation?

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The invitation to be yourself?

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The invitation

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to honor the truth that's inside of you,

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which is to honor the truth of your heart.

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And you don't have to.

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I just invite you to recognize the pain

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of not.

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And in getting in touch with that pain,

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you will see that the truth

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will set you free.