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Hi. Welcome.

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My name is doctor Kathy Bethvan.

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I'm a clinical psychologist, a teacher, and a parent, and this is an iMatter mini web plus on how to improve well-being for adults and young people.

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We're gonna cover some issues you don't want to miss and it's just seven minutes to get started.

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So what I told you, it was possible to improve well-being for yourself and for young people and other adults without a lot of hassle.

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So just imagine waking up to a new world in which you and many more young people and adults are happier and healthier and thriving,

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and the sun is shining.

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And then I wrote that thinking perhaps I shouldn't make unrealistic promises given that I live in the North Of England.

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But imagine people are smiling at each other and helping each other and your worries are dropping away.

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So right now, if you, like most of us, you may be wondering what the future holds.

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Concern about mental health for you or for others.

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Feeling that you're going around in circles or feeling worried or discouraged.

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I used to feel that way a lot too, and I used to really doubt it was possible to make a difference in the face of the scale of the challenges.

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But then one day things changed.

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And I discovered something that, to my amazement, realized that we have all missed.

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And it was the issue of relationship health,

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that's supported by something I'd describe as an eye matter approach.

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I'll tell you a bit more on that in a second.

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So

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most people try to improve well-being through putting on a brave face, trying to find an expert,

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trying to change others. And, you know, I tried all those and they didn't work.

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Then I tried them again and they still didn't work.

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So,

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what I did is I went back to the research to try and understand what it was telling us.

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I've done a lot of training. I wanted to understand what it really

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was saying. And slowly the pieces came together like a big jigsaw

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into something I call the Amaz framework, which was like,

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understanding some of the things that I hadn't understood before.

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And

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things started to make more sense.

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And later, I say, I saw the I'm overlooked issue of relationship health.

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And when I realized that relationship health was a big missing

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missing link in my own understanding,

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and I started to shift my focus

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to,

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what I could do, the steps I could take to improve relationship health, to my relief, things started to improve.

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And they improved in my personal life, with my adult to adult relationships, with young people,

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in my work relationships. I started to feel a whole lot less exhausted and burned out.

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And we've started to develop that thinking, and we're finding that feedback from other people.

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So

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the key secret to improving well-being without hassle

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is, I think, to follow a structured and step by step learning approach.

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Now for me, working these ideas out took a long time.

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I wouldn't want you to take as long as long as I did.

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So we've got something called the I matter relationship health learning journey, which is a structured step by step approach to being introduced to these ideas that can help you make a difference.

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But the second one is really being willing to take your own role really seriously.

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It's very tempting to wait for others to make the changes.

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But that's what we mean by the I matter piece. Yet your decisions really make a difference.

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So you might be thinking you've heard it all before.

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None of this is gonna work for you or for your family or work setting or community.

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And you know, I understand that it sometimes feels overwhelming, but that's why I've discovered that small steps really matter.

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When we take small steps, then it's easier to keep going.

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So the reality is that amateur, as a as a way of thinking, has helped a full range of people, professionals, parents and carers, young people.

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And now we work actively with GPs and teachers

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and, say, with young people and adults of all ages using this thinking.

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You might be thinking, well, it's gonna be far too difficult for me, you know, so it's not gonna be possible for yourself.

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But, you know, the truth is some of this relationship work is challenging.

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But some of it can really be simpler than you think.

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And surprisingly, there can sometimes be small tweaks

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that makes an

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unexpected difference, and that's why this work is very rewarding.

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So this training, overall, is aiming to support more joined up thinking.

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Everybody knows that we need to do more joined up thinking, but it's been difficult to achieve.

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But I think with this understanding of relationship health, it's much easier to think about

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how to progress that that intention that we all know is important.

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So our core priority right now is helping professionals to work more easily with parents and carers by building a shared language so that together they can work more effectively to help young people.

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So we work with individuals in in organisations

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who want support

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their own,

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network of professionals and the parents linked to them in their own settings.

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So for example in Kendall we work with GPs

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and schools and community organisations

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and through that that link of network of relationships

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we work with parents.

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So would you like to learn more in your to help you in your home or work or your community?

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This is actually a very exciting time to take part in this project because there are now a range of ways to get started.

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The very simplest thing you can do is to stay on our newsletter, which will be on our newsletter by watching this mini class.

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But if you want to learn more, there are books to read and they're written to be easy and accessible.

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There's short one off workshops and then there's the relationship health rookies membership where you'll hear myself and my colleague Jacqui Wilson

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discussing all things related to how do we put this this interesting,

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idea relationship held into practice in a whole range of

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professional and personal settings.

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So then our in-depth program is what we call the iMatter framework fundamentals.

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That's a three month

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program.

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There's the IMATA Deep Dive, which is a twelve month program, and then there's practitioner training for people who want to join our network using the resources.

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We accept expression of interest from professionals who want to help their own community,

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and we offer places to parents when GP is involved and the child's school is involved.

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So that's just because that's our goal is to support joined up thinking.

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So,

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you may not be sure about this and I get that but delays can be missed opportunities to start seeing improved well-being of yourself, your family, and community.

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So the sooner you start and the sooner you can start to see results.

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So though we don't offer the full program to everyone, the relationship path rookies really gets you gives you a chance to listen in to some of these core ideas, and I really know that just listening in can really bring about some big sort of shifts in your own thinking.

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So just imagine what could happen if lots of people start doing that, start thinking about relationship health and what the actions that they can take.

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So remember this, that through your own actions, you can be part of something with others.

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So why not take us a first small step today?

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Got questions? We'd love to hear from you.

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But, otherwise, stay on our mailing list and look out for opportunities.