WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:02.820 You look back at your history, have you made any mistakes? 2 00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:04.100 Yeah. 3 00:00:04.720 --> 00:00:05.700 Lots of mistakes. 4 00:00:06.000 --> 00:00:11.540 Dumb mistakes as a father to my daughters. My ex wife left me because I was too aggressive verbally. 5 00:00:11.679 --> 00:00:18.765 The hurt that you caused for your former wife and your daughter was not what you wanted for them, but that doesn't mean that it was 6 00:00:19.145 --> 00:00:19.645 wrong 7 00:00:20.025 --> 00:00:25.564 or even not okay. That's like a moral judgment that we put on it after. 8 00:00:25.625 --> 00:00:29.280 If you had had the resources to do something else, you would have, but you didn't. 9 00:00:29.360 --> 00:00:32.640 You didn't do anything wrong. And that doesn't mean I'm condoning the behavior. 10 00:00:32.640 --> 00:00:35.940 I'm not suggesting you do it again. It wasn't wrong. 11 00:00:37.920 --> 00:00:41.860 What do you know to be true now? What do you take with you today? A new reality? 12 00:00:43.680 --> 00:00:44.180 Welcome 13 00:00:44.795 --> 00:00:50.094 to another episode of Recode Your Mind with Calvin Corelli. Super pumped today 14 00:00:50.714 --> 00:00:56.175 because I have Pierre here. And I don't know how to pronounce your name in English. 15 00:00:57.469 --> 00:01:00.929 Pihl, I'm assuming or something like that. Yeah. Yeah. So 16 00:01:01.390 --> 00:01:04.209 so yeah. So par. It looks like pair of shoes. 17 00:01:04.670 --> 00:01:07.950 Per. Oh, because you're Swedish. I'm Danish, so I do the Danish version. 18 00:01:07.950 --> 00:01:09.649 And how do you pronounce your last name? 19 00:01:10.445 --> 00:01:12.785 Hiet. So Peer. Head. 20 00:01:13.405 --> 00:01:18.545 Yeah. And and then when I'm I'm abroad, people say Peer Head, and that's known from 21 00:01:19.085 --> 00:01:20.465 because it sounds very funny. 22 00:01:21.885 --> 00:01:27.450 Dude, my name my my Danish name, the name my parents gave me was Las Holga Pin. 23 00:01:28.150 --> 00:01:32.729 And Okay. Then I moved over here and I was like, this is a nightmare. This is a freaking nightmare. 24 00:01:32.790 --> 00:01:35.369 So I changed it. So I changed my legal name, 25 00:01:35.945 --> 00:01:38.685 for that and other reasons. So that's why 26 00:01:39.145 --> 00:01:41.225 that's why a lot of people don't know I'm from Denmark. 27 00:01:41.225 --> 00:01:44.605 But if you went out here to talk about me, we're gonna talk about you. So, 28 00:01:45.785 --> 00:01:51.085 please enlighten me and our our visitor of yours here on 29 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:54.060 who do you serve? 30 00:01:54.360 --> 00:01:57.659 What do you do for them? What's the challenge that you would like 31 00:01:58.600 --> 00:01:59.420 my help with? 32 00:02:00.119 --> 00:02:00.619 Yeah. 33 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:08.025 So I'm a coach and NLP trainer. So I, help people to to create the state of flow on command. 34 00:02:08.485 --> 00:02:10.645 So that's that's what I do. And, 35 00:02:11.845 --> 00:02:12.905 yeah. And, 36 00:02:14.325 --> 00:02:16.105 what I wanna address is that, 37 00:02:18.325 --> 00:02:21.785 quick short background. I started 2009, 38 00:02:22.030 --> 00:02:25.010 and I have done it full time since 2021. 39 00:02:25.950 --> 00:02:26.450 So 40 00:02:26.989 --> 00:02:29.970 so with my business before I was a salesman and all that. 41 00:02:31.549 --> 00:02:32.590 And 2021, 42 00:02:32.590 --> 00:02:33.549 2022 43 00:02:33.549 --> 00:02:36.209 went very, very, very good. During 44 00:02:36.750 --> 00:02:37.250 I 45 00:02:38.085 --> 00:02:39.045 2022, 46 00:02:39.045 --> 00:02:39.785 I I, 47 00:02:40.325 --> 00:02:41.065 sold for 48 00:02:41.365 --> 00:02:43.065 around $300,000. 49 00:02:43.605 --> 00:02:44.325 And and, 50 00:02:45.045 --> 00:02:45.785 Very cool. 51 00:02:46.245 --> 00:02:46.745 Yeah. 52 00:02:47.445 --> 00:02:52.965 Very great. And and and my strategy was, free challenges and then sell my group program. 53 00:02:52.965 --> 00:02:55.110 So that was my and I also had, 54 00:02:56.230 --> 00:02:59.050 upselling with other courses and trainings and all that. 55 00:02:59.590 --> 00:03:01.690 So so and the 2023, 56 00:03:02.950 --> 00:03:08.170 did not go as well, but, still had money much money left from 2022, 57 00:03:08.605 --> 00:03:10.465 and payment plans coming in, 58 00:03:10.925 --> 00:03:14.065 still today coming in payments from that Amazing. 59 00:03:14.525 --> 00:03:16.465 And then 2024, 60 00:03:18.445 --> 00:03:18.925 some 61 00:03:19.405 --> 00:03:19.905 so 62 00:03:20.285 --> 00:03:23.250 quite good, but I had, like, yeah, 63 00:03:24.269 --> 00:03:24.769 financial, 64 00:03:26.670 --> 00:03:27.890 what to say, financial, 65 00:03:30.349 --> 00:03:30.849 downfall, 66 00:03:31.550 --> 00:03:32.450 what to say. 67 00:03:32.910 --> 00:03:34.750 Mhmm. It the because, 68 00:03:35.390 --> 00:03:36.269 I I got, 69 00:03:37.255 --> 00:03:37.995 I got, 70 00:03:38.295 --> 00:03:42.635 tricked. What is I I don't Oh. Try to find English one. You're tricked about the money. 71 00:03:43.015 --> 00:03:43.975 Yeah. So so, 72 00:03:44.695 --> 00:03:47.675 and all that. You get slammed. 2525, 73 00:03:47.895 --> 00:03:51.335 like, sold kinda well, not as near as 2022, 74 00:03:51.335 --> 00:03:54.000 but kinda well. But then 2026, 75 00:03:54.860 --> 00:03:56.160 barely sold anything. 76 00:03:56.460 --> 00:03:57.760 I sold for, like, 77 00:03:59.340 --> 00:04:00.720 $7,000 78 00:04:01.260 --> 00:04:02.160 Okay. Since 79 00:04:02.700 --> 00:04:04.940 New Year's Eve. So it doesn't go that 80 00:04:05.645 --> 00:04:06.925 oh, it's 8,000 81 00:04:06.925 --> 00:04:08.865 probably probably. 8,000. 82 00:04:08.925 --> 00:04:10.785 Yeah. Yeah. So so it doesn't go 83 00:04:11.085 --> 00:04:13.025 well at all now. Mhmm. 84 00:04:13.485 --> 00:04:19.579 And and a few months two months ago, I got stress symptoms, so I needed to calm, cool down. 85 00:04:19.579 --> 00:04:23.759 I had a lot of projects at the same time. And the stress symptoms are gone. 86 00:04:24.539 --> 00:04:26.319 Right. But I started to re reevaluate 87 00:04:27.419 --> 00:04:30.939 reevaluate a lot in my life, in my business, and all that, 88 00:04:32.015 --> 00:04:33.155 because of that. 89 00:04:33.535 --> 00:04:38.675 Right. I get it. That's yeah. That's that's a rough that's a very rough spot to be in. Yeah. 90 00:04:38.735 --> 00:04:42.595 So what are you doing for for are you doing something to supplement your income? 91 00:04:43.535 --> 00:04:46.490 No. I'm I'm looking for y'all to supplement my income, but, 92 00:04:47.370 --> 00:04:48.510 not right now. 93 00:04:48.890 --> 00:04:49.950 Okay. Alright. 94 00:04:51.450 --> 00:04:55.390 So, yeah, tell me what what were you doing that was working, and 95 00:04:56.010 --> 00:04:57.790 have you what have you tried? 96 00:04:59.035 --> 00:04:59.775 Yeah. So 97 00:05:00.315 --> 00:05:01.435 so when it was working, 98 00:05:02.075 --> 00:05:05.455 I I tried the same strategy afterwards. It does have best 99 00:05:05.995 --> 00:05:06.495 support. 100 00:05:06.795 --> 00:05:10.155 But but the The strategy was challenges to what was it exactly? 101 00:05:10.155 --> 00:05:12.335 You did free challenge, a paid challenge? 102 00:05:12.740 --> 00:05:15.080 Yeah. Yeah. Free challenge. So so I did, like, 103 00:05:16.740 --> 00:05:17.240 Facebook 104 00:05:17.860 --> 00:05:21.160 2022 and 2021. I did Facebook posts 105 00:05:21.540 --> 00:05:23.300 four four days a week and and, 106 00:05:23.940 --> 00:05:27.400 both videos and, written content and then on that. 107 00:05:28.444 --> 00:05:32.944 And I had a Facebook group that I Mhmm. And then then I had 108 00:05:33.405 --> 00:05:34.224 three challenges 109 00:05:34.764 --> 00:05:36.224 once a month or once 110 00:05:36.925 --> 00:05:38.784 every two months. Mhmm. 111 00:05:39.485 --> 00:05:45.520 And and, by then, it was really easy to fill the challenges and was kinda easy to sell it as well. 112 00:05:45.520 --> 00:05:50.500 So from the selling them, were you using paid ads to fill them or just organic content? 113 00:05:51.360 --> 00:05:52.820 Organic organic. Okay. 114 00:05:53.200 --> 00:05:53.700 Cool. 115 00:05:54.295 --> 00:06:00.455 And then, What kind of person would you attract and what was their like, NLP flow, I get it. 116 00:06:00.455 --> 00:06:01.915 But is it are they 117 00:06:02.695 --> 00:06:06.955 athletes? Are they business owners? Are they professionals? Like, what are they? 118 00:06:09.180 --> 00:06:11.840 In the terms of niche, I've been very broad. 119 00:06:12.620 --> 00:06:13.020 But, 120 00:06:13.580 --> 00:06:16.060 if I look at my clients, 70% 121 00:06:16.060 --> 00:06:17.099 of women and, 122 00:06:17.740 --> 00:06:18.060 of 123 00:06:18.940 --> 00:06:20.800 and half are self employed, 124 00:06:21.500 --> 00:06:22.400 half are 125 00:06:22.860 --> 00:06:23.360 employed. 126 00:06:24.435 --> 00:06:29.014 And often, like, academics, not only, but mostly academic people, 127 00:06:30.275 --> 00:06:31.074 social worker, 128 00:06:33.074 --> 00:06:33.974 and social scientists, 129 00:06:35.465 --> 00:06:41.830 and and, work. And what is the specific pain that most of them have when they when they hire you? 130 00:06:44.690 --> 00:06:45.670 I would say 131 00:06:47.010 --> 00:06:51.750 to to care too much for the other people think. I would say it's one big thing. 132 00:06:52.115 --> 00:06:54.215 Mhmm. For, like, 80%. 133 00:06:54.675 --> 00:06:58.215 Mhmm. Maybe not the biggest for eighty percent, but eight percent has that. 134 00:06:58.835 --> 00:07:02.375 Mind I thought think you would call it mind bug. Yes. Yeah. 135 00:07:02.915 --> 00:07:03.655 Yeah. That's right. 136 00:07:04.195 --> 00:07:05.735 So I would say that. And 137 00:07:06.050 --> 00:07:07.990 in general, to to hand 138 00:07:08.610 --> 00:07:12.950 to get rid of mind bugs in general, I would say that's my special specialty 139 00:07:13.490 --> 00:07:18.790 to to help people to really go through the inner work and and go up the other side. Totally. 140 00:07:18.850 --> 00:07:27.485 And And so what is what the the caring what other people think, what is that costing them, or what is it preventing them from doing? 141 00:07:28.825 --> 00:07:33.645 Oh, it could prevent them for for example, starting a business or or to 142 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:38.139 it could be small choices as well to, put boundaries, 143 00:07:38.520 --> 00:07:39.340 to to, 144 00:07:40.280 --> 00:07:45.020 get rid of some people in their lives that's not good for them. Right. Getting new people. 145 00:07:45.319 --> 00:07:48.280 What I'm trying what I'm what I'm fishing for here is 146 00:07:50.495 --> 00:07:58.675 and and, I know I asked it, like, what what you've tried and and since then, but what I'm just fishing for is, like, it's always when you go broad, 147 00:07:59.135 --> 00:08:01.794 it's just harder to make to get value 148 00:08:02.250 --> 00:08:04.830 from people. It just has less value and especially 149 00:08:05.210 --> 00:08:08.330 like, it's always been the case that information is free to some extent. Right? 150 00:08:08.330 --> 00:08:14.250 We had public libraries, and then we got Google, and, like, books have always been pretty cheap and and whatnot. 151 00:08:14.250 --> 00:08:16.350 Now there's AI. So people like, 152 00:08:16.915 --> 00:08:19.495 even more is just people can get the information. 153 00:08:20.995 --> 00:08:25.335 What they're really looking for is a is a guide, as a trusted guide 154 00:08:25.795 --> 00:08:29.175 that has lived the transformation that they're looking for. 155 00:08:29.350 --> 00:08:35.049 And the more that we're clear on who it is and we have a high value target, a high value avatar 156 00:08:35.590 --> 00:08:36.570 that has money 157 00:08:37.030 --> 00:08:38.970 and and acute pain 158 00:08:39.429 --> 00:08:42.169 and is willing to invest money to solve that, 159 00:08:42.554 --> 00:08:46.415 to get rid of that pain or achieve a specific outcome that they want. 160 00:08:46.555 --> 00:08:50.415 The more we can speak to something very specific, the easier it is to sell, 161 00:08:50.715 --> 00:08:53.135 and the easier it is to sell at a high price. 162 00:08:55.020 --> 00:08:58.560 Yeah. My prices, I have sold for, like, 163 00:09:01.180 --> 00:09:02.700 approximately $4,000 164 00:09:02.700 --> 00:09:04.960 for the group program. So so I have 165 00:09:05.420 --> 00:09:06.640 have high tickets, but, 166 00:09:07.900 --> 00:09:08.880 I try to 167 00:09:09.745 --> 00:09:11.445 be more specific in my niche. 168 00:09:13.505 --> 00:09:18.645 I I because I know know the stuff is not here at least. But when 169 00:09:19.425 --> 00:09:21.605 like, every time when I try to 170 00:09:22.860 --> 00:09:23.600 be specific, 171 00:09:24.700 --> 00:09:28.720 it tends to get even worse in my in my experience. 172 00:09:28.779 --> 00:09:31.440 For me, personally, I'm not talking about other people. 173 00:09:31.500 --> 00:09:37.040 But but but I still still know that I should do it more specific. 174 00:09:38.045 --> 00:09:40.225 Uh-huh. And worse in what way? 175 00:09:42.285 --> 00:09:46.685 Mhmm. I don't tend to sell anything. It's, like, harder to track them. 176 00:09:46.685 --> 00:09:51.425 Maybe my my message has has been too unclear or something. But 177 00:09:52.444 --> 00:09:53.345 when when I 178 00:09:54.260 --> 00:09:55.480 go broad, it 179 00:09:56.100 --> 00:10:01.380 it has gone easy until now then. So Mhmm. So Yeah. Of course. So okay. So yeah. 180 00:10:01.380 --> 00:10:04.040 Tell me what you what have you you've been doing this year? 181 00:10:06.260 --> 00:10:07.220 Around around, 182 00:10:07.540 --> 00:10:08.280 two challenges, 183 00:10:08.675 --> 00:10:09.495 three challenges. 184 00:10:10.035 --> 00:10:10.535 Mhmm. 185 00:10:11.954 --> 00:10:12.454 And 186 00:10:13.394 --> 00:10:15.415 and one of them is on one program. 187 00:10:16.115 --> 00:10:18.754 The other one, I didn't sell anyone. And but, 188 00:10:19.555 --> 00:10:20.774 even though I had, 189 00:10:21.475 --> 00:10:22.855 like, I think, 190 00:10:23.889 --> 00:10:28.149 oh, man, it wasn't, like, twenty, twenty five distance. And 191 00:10:29.810 --> 00:10:30.850 so 2022, 192 00:10:30.850 --> 00:10:35.430 I I with that amount, I I sold approximately seven or eight per 193 00:10:36.255 --> 00:10:36.755 challenge. 194 00:10:37.455 --> 00:10:37.955 Mhmm. 195 00:10:38.415 --> 00:10:42.675 With how many people in the challenge? With how many people in the challenge? 196 00:10:43.135 --> 00:10:49.395 Like, yeah, 20 to 30 people. Okay. And selling 70? That's that's really good. 197 00:10:49.670 --> 00:10:52.490 That's, like, a high how long is the challenge? 198 00:10:53.270 --> 00:10:53.770 Oh, 199 00:10:54.390 --> 00:10:57.530 back then was ten days. Now I shortened to to, 200 00:10:59.710 --> 00:11:00.210 to, 201 00:11:02.230 --> 00:11:03.290 to six days. 202 00:11:03.910 --> 00:11:04.970 So I do it 203 00:11:05.315 --> 00:11:10.695 before I did it because it was harder to get people to the challenges with ten days, so I shortened it 204 00:11:11.235 --> 00:11:12.595 to six days. But there's still, 205 00:11:13.154 --> 00:11:15.654 still five meetings, five Zoom meetings. 206 00:11:16.675 --> 00:11:17.175 Okay. 207 00:11:17.490 --> 00:11:22.450 So it's the same amount of content, but just compacted over a short amount of time? Exactly. Yeah. 208 00:11:22.450 --> 00:11:26.550 Got it. And when you made that change, did you see the your conversion go up or down? 209 00:11:27.570 --> 00:11:30.230 Or on January? The conversion was already down 210 00:11:30.645 --> 00:11:32.725 by down that was 2023. 211 00:11:32.725 --> 00:11:33.225 No. 212 00:11:33.845 --> 00:11:34.805 2024, 213 00:11:34.805 --> 00:11:36.265 I think, I started that. 214 00:11:36.805 --> 00:11:37.305 Mhmm. 215 00:11:38.405 --> 00:11:39.465 So I 216 00:11:40.005 --> 00:11:40.405 I short 217 00:11:42.245 --> 00:11:47.840 so I didn't notice any difference, but it was easier to get people to the challenge when I shortened it. 218 00:11:48.060 --> 00:11:49.740 Because that was a huge problem then. 219 00:11:49.740 --> 00:11:54.080 Now you get, like, most 10 people or something at the through the challenges. 220 00:11:55.100 --> 00:11:55.600 Mhmm. 221 00:11:56.220 --> 00:12:01.324 And and I also tried paid marketing, and I I feel ripped. 100 people 222 00:12:01.865 --> 00:12:08.365 sold one. It was like a lot of work and money. I I I think I went plus, like, $200 223 00:12:08.665 --> 00:12:10.524 in one Yeah. For all that work. 224 00:12:10.904 --> 00:12:12.845 So was that running ads? 225 00:12:13.460 --> 00:12:14.280 Yeah. Running ads. Yeah. 226 00:12:14.740 --> 00:12:17.560 Yeah. I I had a company who who who helped me. 227 00:12:18.100 --> 00:12:19.720 Mhmm. Got it. Yeah. 228 00:12:20.740 --> 00:12:21.240 Understood. 229 00:12:21.700 --> 00:12:24.680 So what do you think what do you think the issue is? 230 00:12:27.860 --> 00:12:28.360 That's 231 00:12:31.025 --> 00:12:34.885 I think it's both strategy and and person personal. 232 00:12:35.665 --> 00:12:36.485 Mhmm. Because 233 00:12:38.465 --> 00:12:43.105 I tried for so long time to switch strategies, and I hired a business coach, 234 00:12:43.505 --> 00:12:45.629 in the beginning of the year. Or, 235 00:12:46.810 --> 00:12:50.269 and and she helped me, and I fixed my message. And I 236 00:12:50.889 --> 00:12:52.589 became more congruent, but still 237 00:12:53.850 --> 00:12:54.509 not not 238 00:12:55.050 --> 00:12:56.829 even not good results. 239 00:12:59.435 --> 00:13:02.095 And I tried to do a lot of inner work, but still 240 00:13:02.475 --> 00:13:08.895 same. So but when I got my stress symptoms, I just realized I can't run these challenges anymore, 241 00:13:09.675 --> 00:13:13.400 because it was too so much work, so much time and energy 242 00:13:13.860 --> 00:13:18.340 went into that for very little results. So so I I I 243 00:13:21.220 --> 00:13:23.720 I'm trying to find another strategy right now 244 00:13:25.904 --> 00:13:27.765 For it's not the challenges because 245 00:13:28.144 --> 00:13:28.644 yeah. 246 00:13:29.345 --> 00:13:29.845 Yeah. 247 00:13:30.945 --> 00:13:32.704 So if you were to say just like 248 00:13:34.305 --> 00:13:34.805 so 249 00:13:36.240 --> 00:13:40.320 yeah, what it what do you think is so you said the issue is both strategy and personal. 250 00:13:40.320 --> 00:13:43.700 Like, what would you say the issue is? What do you think the issue is? 251 00:13:53.335 --> 00:13:54.475 So hard to say. 252 00:13:55.335 --> 00:13:57.275 One answer would say I'm incongruent. 253 00:13:57.895 --> 00:14:00.875 I've been incongruent. Now I'm more congruent, but 254 00:14:01.815 --> 00:14:02.715 That's cool. 255 00:14:04.670 --> 00:14:05.490 I don't know, 256 00:14:05.950 --> 00:14:06.450 actually. 257 00:14:07.390 --> 00:14:09.490 If I'm yes. To be honest, I don't know. 258 00:14:09.949 --> 00:14:10.449 I 259 00:14:10.910 --> 00:14:15.010 should try to guess, but I tried to guess that for, like, since 2023 260 00:14:15.150 --> 00:14:16.390 on this stage. No. You're good. 261 00:14:16.430 --> 00:14:20.765 Trying a lot of things, both in the in the in the external and the internal 262 00:14:21.145 --> 00:14:24.765 on a lot of inner work and out. So Mhmm. It's Totally. 263 00:14:24.905 --> 00:14:27.965 So I feel like I'm not a stalemate or something. Yeah. 264 00:14:28.505 --> 00:14:30.045 Yeah. I hear you. 265 00:14:31.430 --> 00:14:33.050 Excuse me. Just got down 266 00:14:33.509 --> 00:14:34.009 to 267 00:14:34.709 --> 00:14:36.649 It's a good celery juice here. 268 00:14:41.350 --> 00:14:46.089 So you're saying you were incongruent, and now you're more congruent in in what way? 269 00:14:46.715 --> 00:14:47.615 Yeah. But but 270 00:14:49.435 --> 00:14:53.775 I so it's more like I'm more congruent with myself, but now I'm 271 00:14:54.155 --> 00:14:57.935 putting out less content because I get this stress stress symptoms. 272 00:14:58.075 --> 00:15:00.255 So I'll be focusing on finding a job. 273 00:15:01.900 --> 00:15:06.880 But I know that's just temporary. I I'm in my soul, I need to be 274 00:15:08.300 --> 00:15:11.580 an entrepreneur. It's like, I I can be employed for for a while. 275 00:15:11.580 --> 00:15:13.840 It's at the works I've been there before, 276 00:15:14.585 --> 00:15:15.485 But I know that 277 00:15:16.025 --> 00:15:17.245 and I want to contribute 278 00:15:17.705 --> 00:15:19.065 with my knowledge and with my 279 00:15:19.705 --> 00:15:23.565 So yeah. So the incongruencies, it was like is it a messaging incongruency? 280 00:15:23.945 --> 00:15:27.965 It's a one thing here and another thing there? Or is it I think the biggest incongruence 281 00:15:28.505 --> 00:15:32.700 that I found is, like, I'm chasing money. I'm chasing money. Chasing. Chasing. Yeah. 282 00:15:32.700 --> 00:15:34.400 And the big incongruence is that 283 00:15:35.180 --> 00:15:41.440 when I had the coaching sessions, I had the group meetings, and my and my LFP trainings, I felt alive. 284 00:15:41.500 --> 00:15:46.825 It was like, it's like I'm on on my game. And when I was in between, I felt like 285 00:15:47.445 --> 00:15:48.745 life is just flat. 286 00:15:49.285 --> 00:15:51.385 I that that was one of the 287 00:15:51.765 --> 00:15:52.665 one of my 288 00:15:53.525 --> 00:15:54.825 illuminations. Like, 289 00:15:55.529 --> 00:15:58.670 I can't live like this. It's like I hear about, 290 00:16:01.050 --> 00:16:01.850 I hear about, 291 00:16:02.250 --> 00:16:02.750 like, 292 00:16:03.769 --> 00:16:06.570 artists when they're out and they're singing and doing that. 293 00:16:06.570 --> 00:16:11.070 I've done life school, and when they're home, it feels like so I I experienced that. 294 00:16:11.505 --> 00:16:16.085 Now I feel like life is good again, personally. Financially, it's very bad. 295 00:16:17.025 --> 00:16:17.525 Personally, 296 00:16:18.545 --> 00:16:19.045 it's 297 00:16:19.585 --> 00:16:20.325 much better. 298 00:16:20.785 --> 00:16:21.265 But, 299 00:16:21.985 --> 00:16:23.285 the chasing of the money 300 00:16:23.769 --> 00:16:24.589 became incongruent. 301 00:16:25.450 --> 00:16:28.269 Chasing, chasing, say, chasing and do 302 00:16:28.970 --> 00:16:33.709 just more strategy and and try to upsell to my current clients and 303 00:16:34.250 --> 00:16:37.470 getting new clients and all that. It's like Yeah. 304 00:16:38.875 --> 00:16:39.375 And 305 00:16:40.555 --> 00:16:42.255 I I hear you. I get that. 306 00:16:43.274 --> 00:16:44.255 So if you're 307 00:16:46.475 --> 00:16:47.375 if you don't 308 00:16:47.755 --> 00:16:49.694 if the money doesn't change, 309 00:16:50.154 --> 00:16:51.855 if you don't make more money, 310 00:16:52.714 --> 00:16:53.694 what would that, 311 00:16:55.350 --> 00:16:56.730 yeah, what would that mean? 312 00:16:59.110 --> 00:17:03.690 You you mean the effects? Or how about I think about it? Okay. Both. 313 00:17:05.510 --> 00:17:08.410 So, of course, I would get a job, so that's fine. But 314 00:17:09.505 --> 00:17:10.565 I would probably 315 00:17:13.105 --> 00:17:15.444 I'm already in lots of depths depths. 316 00:17:15.744 --> 00:17:16.724 I have, like, 317 00:17:19.025 --> 00:17:19.525 almost, 318 00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:23.440 almost $75,000 319 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:26.579 in debts Yeah. Right now. So it's pretty bad. 320 00:17:31.280 --> 00:17:33.300 So if I don't make, 321 00:17:35.405 --> 00:17:40.765 well, eventually, I I will get out of it because I've been in a worse situation strong, long time ago. 322 00:17:40.765 --> 00:17:41.265 But, 323 00:17:42.365 --> 00:17:43.005 that effects 324 00:17:49.270 --> 00:17:52.810 It's hard. I get, like, a feeling here right now and 325 00:17:53.510 --> 00:17:56.410 here in my throat and feeling my 326 00:17:56.710 --> 00:17:58.010 let's say solar plexus. 327 00:17:58.630 --> 00:17:59.130 Mhmm. 328 00:17:59.830 --> 00:18:01.530 But how to put words of it 329 00:18:04.044 --> 00:18:05.585 If I don't make money, 330 00:18:08.044 --> 00:18:09.585 one month, then I failed. 331 00:18:10.284 --> 00:18:10.784 Mhmm. 332 00:18:12.845 --> 00:18:13.585 You failed. 333 00:18:14.140 --> 00:18:15.440 Mhmm. Yeah. 334 00:18:15.740 --> 00:18:17.919 When did you learn that you could fail? 335 00:18:19.660 --> 00:18:21.520 When did I learn I could fail? 336 00:18:24.780 --> 00:18:25.679 In my business, 337 00:18:27.325 --> 00:18:29.665 I learned it first. I'm gonna start my business 338 00:18:30.205 --> 00:18:31.185 2009, 339 00:18:31.725 --> 00:18:33.425 and a year later, I was bankrupt. 340 00:18:35.085 --> 00:18:39.265 And I did not have any experience of settling, marketing, or anything by then. 341 00:18:39.405 --> 00:18:42.305 I did not hire an hire a mentor or anything. 342 00:18:42.810 --> 00:18:44.990 Mhmm. I just quit my job, and 343 00:18:46.010 --> 00:18:47.390 I was young and stupid. 344 00:18:48.810 --> 00:18:52.590 Then I really learned that I could really massively fail in my business, 345 00:18:53.930 --> 00:18:54.830 I would say. 346 00:18:55.265 --> 00:18:56.305 And when did you 347 00:18:56.945 --> 00:18:59.125 like, just, like, what was it like for peer 348 00:19:01.105 --> 00:19:04.805 to grow up? What was it like for you as a kid? What was your family like? 349 00:19:05.585 --> 00:19:06.085 Oh, 350 00:19:08.080 --> 00:19:14.100 okay. So long story short, my my mother was alcoholic, so Mhmm. Was mostly with my father. 351 00:19:14.399 --> 00:19:17.380 And, he was a hardworking man, construction worker, 352 00:19:18.240 --> 00:19:19.059 very loving, 353 00:19:19.360 --> 00:19:22.675 and he met a new woman after he and my mother, 354 00:19:23.535 --> 00:19:24.035 divorced. 355 00:19:24.895 --> 00:19:27.235 And, And how old were you when they separated? 356 00:19:28.495 --> 00:19:30.755 I think I was two or three years old. 357 00:19:31.135 --> 00:19:33.635 I barely remember they them being together. 358 00:19:35.580 --> 00:19:36.080 And, 359 00:19:38.299 --> 00:19:41.600 and and the new woman he he met was probably a narcissist. 360 00:19:42.220 --> 00:19:42.780 She was, 361 00:19:43.260 --> 00:19:44.480 horrible, horrible 362 00:19:44.780 --> 00:19:45.280 woman, 363 00:19:46.460 --> 00:19:48.240 to put in my leg. But, 364 00:19:49.179 --> 00:19:50.400 grew up with that. 365 00:19:51.005 --> 00:19:56.225 Didn't have anyone who who ran a business except my grandpa, my mother's side. 366 00:19:56.684 --> 00:19:57.184 Mhmm. 367 00:19:57.725 --> 00:20:02.705 But yeah. And and I got taught a lot of things, mind boggs about money. 368 00:20:03.430 --> 00:20:04.410 It was very 369 00:20:04.710 --> 00:20:08.870 leftist and, like, rich people are bad and they're evil and all that. 370 00:20:08.870 --> 00:20:12.950 I I I worked a lot with that to clear out those. But, 371 00:20:13.910 --> 00:20:14.950 yeah, so that's my 372 00:20:17.795 --> 00:20:19.095 And so what was it? 373 00:20:20.115 --> 00:20:26.375 Lot of chaos when growing up, but also a lot of great things. So it's both. Yeah. 374 00:20:26.595 --> 00:20:28.055 So what was it like, 375 00:20:29.990 --> 00:20:32.090 being around this narcissistic 376 00:20:32.470 --> 00:20:32.970 stepmom? 377 00:20:34.789 --> 00:20:36.250 Always needed to be alert, 378 00:20:38.070 --> 00:20:38.470 to to 379 00:20:39.190 --> 00:20:47.705 I think that's why I developed some of my coaching skills, my listening skills, because I will need I I I listened for her voice. 380 00:20:47.845 --> 00:20:50.105 What's her state right now? What's her state? 381 00:20:50.644 --> 00:20:57.205 Okay. K. She seems to be a good okay. I I can relax a bit. And she And if you Yeah. Yeah. 382 00:20:57.205 --> 00:20:58.985 If she was in bad state, then what? 383 00:21:01.240 --> 00:21:04.140 She didn't physically harm us, but, she 384 00:21:04.440 --> 00:21:04.940 verbally 385 00:21:05.400 --> 00:21:06.140 lot of 386 00:21:07.960 --> 00:21:08.700 to say 387 00:21:09.160 --> 00:21:11.640 a lot of, nasty comments and and, 388 00:21:12.835 --> 00:21:15.095 comments and put down me and my brother, 389 00:21:16.115 --> 00:21:19.815 and my and our father as well. So she was very 390 00:21:20.435 --> 00:21:21.095 and controlling, 391 00:21:21.555 --> 00:21:22.055 manipulative. 392 00:21:24.450 --> 00:21:24.950 Started 393 00:21:26.049 --> 00:21:26.870 to to 394 00:21:27.250 --> 00:21:30.710 put people against the child in the family and the bigger family. 395 00:21:31.649 --> 00:21:32.149 Mhmm. 396 00:21:32.450 --> 00:21:32.950 Yeah. 397 00:21:33.730 --> 00:21:38.470 Yeah. So should you know So what I'm what I'm sensing for you, Per, 398 00:21:38.929 --> 00:21:39.429 is, 399 00:21:41.375 --> 00:21:41.875 like, 400 00:21:42.355 --> 00:21:42.855 you 401 00:21:44.315 --> 00:21:47.135 the sense I get is that you you had 402 00:21:48.315 --> 00:21:49.775 to do things right 403 00:21:50.475 --> 00:21:50.975 or, 404 00:21:51.995 --> 00:21:53.355 like, you're like, if you 405 00:21:54.169 --> 00:21:54.890 is this right? 406 00:21:54.890 --> 00:21:59.610 Like, if you fucked up, if you did something wrong, then she would you like, her wrath would come over you. 407 00:21:59.610 --> 00:22:02.990 Is that was that kinda what it was like? Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. 408 00:22:03.289 --> 00:22:07.309 And she wouldn't forget it for a long time either. So it's not just in the moment. 409 00:22:07.770 --> 00:22:08.265 Right. 410 00:22:08.585 --> 00:22:12.765 And so if she has a good mood, you can, like, okay, kinda relax. No. Okay. 411 00:22:12.905 --> 00:22:16.345 But if she was in a bad mood, you're, like, hyper villager vigilant. You're like, fuck. 412 00:22:16.345 --> 00:22:21.225 Like, I gotta watch every move, every sound, everything I do here to not get in trouble. 413 00:22:21.225 --> 00:22:22.605 Is that kinda the vibe? 414 00:22:23.309 --> 00:22:23.809 Yeah. 415 00:22:24.110 --> 00:22:25.950 Yeah. Not everyday, but, 416 00:22:26.830 --> 00:22:27.330 probably 417 00:22:27.950 --> 00:22:28.450 yeah. 418 00:22:28.830 --> 00:22:29.330 Often 419 00:22:29.710 --> 00:22:32.450 enough. When she was in that mood. Right? 420 00:22:32.750 --> 00:22:38.745 Oh, yeah. That was yeah. And also being alert to listen what what mood is it is she? Yeah. Yeah. 421 00:22:38.905 --> 00:22:39.645 Yeah. Yeah. 422 00:22:40.425 --> 00:22:41.245 Yeah. Yeah. 423 00:22:41.865 --> 00:22:47.225 Yeah. And what I'm getting at is because if she was a in a bad mood, then what? Right? 424 00:22:47.225 --> 00:22:48.205 Then she would 425 00:22:48.665 --> 00:22:49.885 she would, like, 426 00:22:50.905 --> 00:22:51.405 verbally 427 00:22:52.025 --> 00:22:53.645 yell at you, like, 428 00:22:54.320 --> 00:22:54.640 all of that. 429 00:22:54.640 --> 00:22:59.520 She she could yell or just say nasty comments, but she could do do that in a good mood as well. 430 00:22:59.520 --> 00:23:01.620 But then it was more like passive aggressively. 431 00:23:02.480 --> 00:23:06.420 Okay. But but, so it was more like, okay. I will stay in my room. 432 00:23:06.585 --> 00:23:12.265 I would do as make the noise as possible. Yeah. Or maybe go out and and and meet some friends. 433 00:23:12.265 --> 00:23:17.485 And because I had a lot of friends, so that's one thing that was really good in my That's great. 434 00:23:17.705 --> 00:23:18.024 Yeah. 435 00:23:18.024 --> 00:23:27.200 So when so can you think of, like, one particular moment when she was, like, when she was, like, just jumping on you or, like, yelling at you or whatever she would do? 436 00:23:27.260 --> 00:23:28.320 Oh, there's so many. 437 00:23:30.060 --> 00:23:31.520 One particular moment. 438 00:23:36.755 --> 00:23:38.695 No. Not that comes to mind. I I can 439 00:23:39.075 --> 00:23:43.335 pick up many moments, but not one who stands out right now. Okay. 440 00:23:44.915 --> 00:23:49.415 How old were you when this all was going on? From, like, two, three years old till how long? 441 00:23:50.595 --> 00:23:56.510 Well, she she she came into my life when I was almost seven years old. Okay. Got it. Yeah. Okay. 442 00:23:56.570 --> 00:23:58.909 So what was it like between two and seven? 443 00:24:00.090 --> 00:24:01.870 So say that my mom's 444 00:24:02.250 --> 00:24:07.565 first, but she met a new guy who was hitting her and and, it was really, really nasty. 445 00:24:07.945 --> 00:24:10.365 So we Oh, man. This is intense. 446 00:24:11.465 --> 00:24:16.365 Yeah. Yeah. Thank you. So but so then me and my brother moved to our father. 447 00:24:16.825 --> 00:24:22.950 He he was had his life in order. He was working. He was, not an alcoholic or anything. 448 00:24:22.950 --> 00:24:26.730 He was very loving. I would say the years in between, 449 00:24:27.510 --> 00:24:31.690 the the when we moved our father and he met the new woman was great. 450 00:24:33.345 --> 00:24:36.645 Only fond memories from that time. Mhmm. And 451 00:24:37.585 --> 00:24:41.285 also sometime after he met her, he was she was really nice in the beginning. 452 00:24:41.985 --> 00:24:42.485 So 453 00:24:43.105 --> 00:24:44.085 so yeah. 454 00:24:44.544 --> 00:24:45.445 Yeah. Until 455 00:24:45.745 --> 00:24:49.060 until she moved in. Yeah. I thought yeah. We just yeah. 456 00:24:49.840 --> 00:24:54.980 Yeah. It seems like your dad was very, very loving, very nice, but also a pushover. 457 00:24:55.840 --> 00:24:57.300 Oh, yeah. He was a really 458 00:24:57.680 --> 00:25:01.215 big pushover. Until they got really angry, then he was screaming like, 459 00:25:01.695 --> 00:25:02.755 help him. Otherwise, 460 00:25:03.294 --> 00:25:04.914 he he was a pushover. Yeah. 461 00:25:05.294 --> 00:25:08.515 Yeah. Have you have you taken on some of those traits yourself? 462 00:25:10.735 --> 00:25:14.815 Yes. But I think I cleared most of them in my relationships, I would say. 463 00:25:14.815 --> 00:25:16.355 I've worked a lot with that. 464 00:25:16.759 --> 00:25:18.860 I bet you have. I bet you have. Yeah. 465 00:25:19.320 --> 00:25:20.139 Yeah. So 466 00:25:20.600 --> 00:25:25.580 so the sense I get was like and the sense I'm still getting from you is like 467 00:25:26.200 --> 00:25:27.980 you're it's like you're still 468 00:25:28.360 --> 00:25:28.860 monitoring 469 00:25:29.399 --> 00:25:29.899 yourself 470 00:25:31.215 --> 00:25:32.195 to get it 471 00:25:39.375 --> 00:25:40.434 right. Well, that's. 472 00:25:40.895 --> 00:25:41.715 Yeah. Yeah. 473 00:25:44.880 --> 00:25:45.380 Yeah. 474 00:25:46.400 --> 00:25:48.660 Yeah. That was a good sign. Alright. 475 00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:53.300 It's a lot of emotions can bring up right now. Oh, yeah. 476 00:25:53.840 --> 00:25:54.740 Not a bit. 477 00:25:55.680 --> 00:25:56.180 Yeah. 478 00:26:00.014 --> 00:26:01.394 Lot of controlling. Yeah. 479 00:26:13.909 --> 00:26:16.490 I thought I wasn't going to cry, but yeah. 480 00:26:17.350 --> 00:26:17.850 So 481 00:26:21.190 --> 00:26:22.090 yes. I am. 482 00:26:30.965 --> 00:26:32.024 What are you feeling? 483 00:26:34.085 --> 00:26:34.985 It's a mix. 484 00:26:36.404 --> 00:26:39.385 One way feels good to to to, 485 00:26:40.885 --> 00:26:41.544 to say, 486 00:26:42.140 --> 00:26:42.960 to acknowledge 487 00:26:44.860 --> 00:26:46.160 it. But it feels like 488 00:26:55.165 --> 00:26:57.665 So how to put virtual emotions by feel 489 00:26:58.685 --> 00:26:59.185 here, 490 00:26:59.645 --> 00:27:00.785 feeling my stomach. 491 00:27:01.565 --> 00:27:03.985 Mhmm. Feel it, like, behind the eyes, 492 00:27:04.285 --> 00:27:06.145 except, like, something to 493 00:27:07.405 --> 00:27:08.145 tearing up. 494 00:27:09.850 --> 00:27:11.630 Like here, I feel 495 00:27:14.010 --> 00:27:16.269 I noticed my breathing became more shallow. 496 00:27:22.649 --> 00:27:23.149 Yeah. 497 00:27:24.885 --> 00:27:25.865 Feel lost, 498 00:27:26.245 --> 00:27:27.065 I would say. 499 00:27:27.765 --> 00:27:28.665 Without it, 500 00:27:29.525 --> 00:27:30.665 what would I 501 00:27:31.045 --> 00:27:32.265 do without it? 502 00:27:35.045 --> 00:27:35.545 Yeah. 503 00:27:36.405 --> 00:27:37.465 It's very familiar. 504 00:27:38.530 --> 00:27:40.309 Yes. I feel like 505 00:27:42.690 --> 00:27:43.670 unknown ground. 506 00:27:44.130 --> 00:27:44.630 Yeah. 507 00:27:45.250 --> 00:27:46.550 It's pretty cool, actually. 508 00:27:49.010 --> 00:27:54.145 You're the first one. I've I've been coached so many times. I have no great coaches. 509 00:27:54.145 --> 00:27:56.245 You're the first who pointed that out, 510 00:27:56.705 --> 00:27:57.205 actually. 511 00:27:57.665 --> 00:27:58.965 I'm I'm yeah. 512 00:28:01.025 --> 00:28:01.765 I'm honored. 513 00:28:03.025 --> 00:28:03.525 Yeah. 514 00:28:05.230 --> 00:28:05.970 Yeah, man. 515 00:28:06.429 --> 00:28:09.009 He's such a sweet, innocent boy. 516 00:28:11.549 --> 00:28:12.929 He's so fucking sweet. 517 00:28:20.155 --> 00:28:21.695 Oh, fuck. Oh. Oh, 518 00:28:22.475 --> 00:28:24.175 okay, man. Just let it. 519 00:28:25.115 --> 00:28:27.375 You're you're so you're amazing, man. 520 00:28:28.555 --> 00:28:29.375 Thank you. 521 00:28:29.755 --> 00:28:30.255 Yeah. 522 00:28:32.330 --> 00:28:36.250 It's like feel like I'm going to start to cry, but doesn't come in a tear. 523 00:28:36.250 --> 00:28:38.110 It was a very weird feeling. 524 00:28:38.890 --> 00:28:41.150 Yeah. You can't fuck it up. 525 00:28:41.610 --> 00:28:42.830 You can't do it wrong. 526 00:28:44.685 --> 00:28:45.185 Yeah. 527 00:28:47.085 --> 00:28:49.585 It's a lot of fucking pressure for a little boy. 528 00:28:50.925 --> 00:28:51.425 Right? 529 00:28:51.805 --> 00:28:53.425 His mom was, like, 530 00:28:54.285 --> 00:28:59.585 an alcoholic mom. She's completely unpredictable. Right? And as a kid, you make it about you. 531 00:28:59.640 --> 00:29:03.923 Of course you do. And so, like, oh, shit. I gotta do it right. 532 00:29:03.923 --> 00:29:06.370 And then there's your dad and, like, whatever. 533 00:29:06.370 --> 00:29:12.183 Some good years, but then stepmom moves in and she's like, shit. Like, what are you gonna do here? 534 00:29:12.183 --> 00:29:14.415 Right? Like, the fucking pressure 535 00:29:14.795 --> 00:29:15.775 for that boy. 536 00:29:23.995 --> 00:29:27.455 Yeah. Oh, yeah. I feel soft emotions here. 537 00:29:28.210 --> 00:29:28.710 Yeah. 538 00:29:29.170 --> 00:29:29.670 Cool. 539 00:29:30.850 --> 00:29:32.490 Yeah. Haven't thought about it. 540 00:29:32.490 --> 00:29:37.990 I I hear a lot of the memories and traumas, but haven't thought about it like that. 541 00:29:38.690 --> 00:29:40.550 Yeah. Got used to the pressure. 542 00:29:41.625 --> 00:29:42.125 Yeah. 543 00:29:44.665 --> 00:29:45.485 So used. 544 00:29:54.025 --> 00:29:54.525 Yeah. 545 00:30:10.855 --> 00:30:14.315 Got it stiff in my back. It's a lot of emotions here. 546 00:30:14.695 --> 00:30:15.195 Yeah. 547 00:30:16.375 --> 00:30:17.495 Can you picture him? 548 00:30:17.495 --> 00:30:23.275 Like, pair whether it was, like, three year old or five year old or eight year old or whatever comes to mind. 549 00:30:24.160 --> 00:30:26.260 Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 550 00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:29.220 Can you see how precious he is? How innocent? 551 00:30:30.160 --> 00:30:31.060 How sweet. 552 00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:35.940 Such a caring, loving boy. Huge heart. 553 00:30:40.985 --> 00:30:42.684 Trying so fucking hard 554 00:30:44.024 --> 00:30:45.325 to get everything right. 555 00:30:55.220 --> 00:30:56.840 Can also see the pleasing, 556 00:30:57.540 --> 00:30:58.280 like, mentality 557 00:31:00.020 --> 00:31:00.920 came from that. 558 00:31:02.206 --> 00:31:02.706 That's 559 00:31:03.100 --> 00:31:03.600 a 560 00:31:03.993 --> 00:31:04.493 that's 561 00:31:04.886 --> 00:31:05.386 a 562 00:31:05.780 --> 00:31:06.280 codependency. 563 00:31:06.980 --> 00:31:12.015 We're a lot above with that. Still, pleasing part, I think is still there 564 00:31:12.395 --> 00:31:13.215 to some extent. 565 00:31:14.075 --> 00:31:16.175 Yeah. Especially in my business. 566 00:31:19.435 --> 00:31:19.935 Oh, 567 00:31:33.170 --> 00:31:36.215 Yeah. Didn't expect it to feel so much this session. 568 00:31:37.715 --> 00:31:39.655 It happens. It happens sometimes. 569 00:31:41.315 --> 00:31:43.174 What what it feel like 570 00:31:43.475 --> 00:31:44.535 if, like, if 571 00:31:46.115 --> 00:31:48.375 if there is if you couldn't fuck it up? 572 00:31:50.540 --> 00:31:50.780 Like 573 00:31:51.420 --> 00:31:52.880 I couldn't fuck it up. 574 00:31:53.340 --> 00:31:55.200 Whatever you do, you can't get it wrong. 575 00:32:03.775 --> 00:32:06.915 Again, I'm confused, so that's a good sign. Yeah. 576 00:32:09.535 --> 00:32:12.595 I think I couldn't fuck it up. I couldn't do a call. 577 00:32:16.730 --> 00:32:18.830 Then I would probably listen more 578 00:32:19.289 --> 00:32:21.230 inside in my business. 579 00:32:22.250 --> 00:32:24.990 Still still, of course, to to taking, 580 00:32:26.169 --> 00:32:28.190 great knowledge from experts, but still 581 00:32:29.044 --> 00:32:30.905 listen even more inside, go 582 00:32:31.365 --> 00:32:32.345 with my intuition. 583 00:32:33.365 --> 00:32:33.865 Mhmm. 584 00:32:35.605 --> 00:32:39.544 And if you when the times I've done that, it usually 585 00:32:40.245 --> 00:32:40.745 goes 586 00:32:41.285 --> 00:32:42.905 kinda well, kinda good 587 00:32:43.560 --> 00:32:44.460 in my 588 00:32:45.400 --> 00:32:45.900 business. 589 00:32:46.840 --> 00:32:47.340 Well, 590 00:32:50.920 --> 00:32:52.140 I just it's so 591 00:32:53.400 --> 00:32:56.780 new concept, I think. I think that way. 592 00:32:57.320 --> 00:32:59.765 I was not aware of this for 593 00:33:11.185 --> 00:33:12.405 so it's if I couldn't 594 00:33:13.105 --> 00:33:14.085 check it out. 595 00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:31.544 One way feels impossible, but still another part of me is think think it like, could I do that? 596 00:33:32.325 --> 00:33:32.825 So 597 00:33:33.445 --> 00:33:33.945 it's 598 00:33:34.565 --> 00:33:36.105 it's both at the same time. 599 00:33:43.500 --> 00:33:46.159 So when you look if you look back at your history, 600 00:33:47.179 --> 00:33:48.559 have you made any mistakes? 601 00:33:50.140 --> 00:33:50.640 Yeah. 602 00:33:51.340 --> 00:33:52.320 Lots of mistakes. 603 00:33:52.779 --> 00:33:53.840 What's an example? 604 00:33:54.555 --> 00:33:55.055 My 605 00:33:56.155 --> 00:33:58.575 business or in general? I'm Whatever. 606 00:33:59.035 --> 00:33:59.535 Anything. 607 00:34:00.315 --> 00:34:05.615 Okay. So so I've done the mistakes as a father to to my daughters. A lot of mistakes there. 608 00:34:05.995 --> 00:34:08.255 Like what? To the point Just one example. 609 00:34:09.099 --> 00:34:10.619 I I became I was 610 00:34:11.260 --> 00:34:12.639 one one example. 611 00:34:13.020 --> 00:34:18.719 Well, the biggest one is that my ex wife left me because I was too aggressive verbally, not physically. 612 00:34:18.859 --> 00:34:21.520 Verbally aggressive to her and my children. 613 00:34:21.885 --> 00:34:26.385 I worked with that, so that's not that pattern is gone. Long gone. Yeah. But 614 00:34:26.685 --> 00:34:29.105 eleven years ago, I broke the pattern. So 615 00:34:29.645 --> 00:34:35.105 so when you think it think to think to one of those moments where you were too aggressive verbally. 616 00:34:36.250 --> 00:34:38.270 Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 617 00:34:38.650 --> 00:34:41.230 In that moment, what was going on for you? 618 00:34:43.290 --> 00:34:43.790 Control. 619 00:34:44.650 --> 00:34:45.150 Right. 620 00:34:46.650 --> 00:34:47.710 I I couldn't control 621 00:34:48.295 --> 00:34:49.594 the situation myself 622 00:34:49.975 --> 00:34:53.835 Right. I would say. And and also anger issues, but but, yeah, control. 623 00:34:54.534 --> 00:34:59.115 So I would argue that if you're if you feel the need to control, it's because you're scared. 624 00:34:59.415 --> 00:35:00.555 Would that be alright? 625 00:35:01.020 --> 00:35:04.480 Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Yeah. That's right. 626 00:35:07.900 --> 00:35:08.400 So 627 00:35:08.780 --> 00:35:09.280 so 628 00:35:09.820 --> 00:35:13.200 that version of you eleven years ago was just scared 629 00:35:15.745 --> 00:35:21.025 And trying to control and lashing out and being angry was the best way he knew how to deal with it. 630 00:35:21.025 --> 00:35:23.765 Because who the fuck taught him how to deal with being scared? 631 00:35:25.745 --> 00:35:26.725 Do you see that? 632 00:35:28.950 --> 00:35:31.690 So he was just doing the best he knew how to do. 633 00:35:37.030 --> 00:35:38.330 So was that a mistake? 634 00:35:41.685 --> 00:35:42.425 But the 635 00:35:44.165 --> 00:35:46.085 what what do you mean? Was it yeah. 636 00:35:46.085 --> 00:35:50.505 I mean, was it wrong of him to do the best that he knew how to do in the moment? 637 00:35:57.180 --> 00:35:59.280 Well, one one way I could say, yeah, I did 638 00:35:59.980 --> 00:36:02.460 he or I didn't know any better by now. 639 00:36:02.460 --> 00:36:05.440 I could say I could see I could see that I'm not forgiving myself. 640 00:36:05.980 --> 00:36:06.480 Yeah. 641 00:36:07.180 --> 00:36:08.000 And also, 642 00:36:08.540 --> 00:36:13.805 at the same time, see that that was not okay behavior. So so that's why I I broke the pattern. 643 00:36:13.865 --> 00:36:18.525 But, Yeah. Right. The I went to therapy and all the did all the stuff. Yeah. 644 00:36:19.145 --> 00:36:19.645 Yeah. 645 00:36:20.105 --> 00:36:22.125 What I what I argue what I what 646 00:36:23.980 --> 00:36:25.760 I in my you consider is, like, 647 00:36:26.620 --> 00:36:28.720 maybe it wasn't I know that the 648 00:36:29.420 --> 00:36:31.440 the behavior wasn't desirable. 649 00:36:31.820 --> 00:36:34.000 It's not who you want to be. 650 00:36:34.460 --> 00:36:35.440 And the consequences, 651 00:36:35.820 --> 00:36:40.925 the hurt that you caused for your your former wife and your and your daughter or your two children 652 00:36:41.464 --> 00:36:47.325 was not what you wanted for them. Right? Okay. Yeah. But that doesn't mean that it was 653 00:36:47.625 --> 00:36:48.125 wrong 654 00:36:49.780 --> 00:36:51.320 or even not okay. 655 00:36:51.780 --> 00:36:52.600 Do you get 656 00:36:53.140 --> 00:36:56.680 that? That's like a moral judgment that we put on it 657 00:36:58.340 --> 00:36:58.840 after. 658 00:37:01.220 --> 00:37:03.560 But in the moment, you didn't have a fucking choice 659 00:37:04.734 --> 00:37:08.595 because you didn't have the resources to have a choice in that moment. You just didn't. 660 00:37:16.850 --> 00:37:20.710 If you had had the resources to do something else, you would have, but you didn't. 661 00:37:26.130 --> 00:37:30.310 Agree. And, also, comes an objection in my mind says, but I shouldn't. 662 00:37:31.434 --> 00:37:33.214 But that's You feel what? 663 00:37:34.474 --> 00:37:39.454 I I I I see I agree. One part we agree and one part feel like but I should have. 664 00:37:39.994 --> 00:37:40.494 Yeah. 665 00:37:40.875 --> 00:37:44.395 But do you see how that's just the same? Right? You just you should is like 666 00:37:45.020 --> 00:37:46.800 you're applying some, like, 667 00:37:47.420 --> 00:37:49.839 like, you know better than God what should have happened. 668 00:37:50.619 --> 00:37:51.119 You 669 00:37:51.940 --> 00:37:52.440 know? 670 00:37:53.260 --> 00:37:54.000 You couldn't. 671 00:37:54.380 --> 00:37:56.240 You couldn't have done anything different. 672 00:37:57.315 --> 00:37:59.015 You couldn't because you didn't. 673 00:38:00.835 --> 00:38:02.055 Do you get this is like 674 00:38:02.755 --> 00:38:06.135 forgiveness is like I did something wrong, but I'll forgive. Right? 675 00:38:06.355 --> 00:38:08.535 What I'm saying, you didn't do anything wrong. 676 00:38:09.170 --> 00:38:13.110 And that doesn't mean I'm condoning the behavior. I'm not suggesting you do it again. 677 00:38:13.490 --> 00:38:15.350 Mhmm. But it wasn't wrong. 678 00:38:20.930 --> 00:38:21.430 Yeah. 679 00:38:25.125 --> 00:38:25.625 Yeah. 680 00:38:28.805 --> 00:38:29.305 Yeah. 681 00:38:57.615 --> 00:38:58.515 Certain seeking 682 00:38:58.975 --> 00:38:59.715 was hard 683 00:39:00.015 --> 00:39:02.275 to sink it to my body with that 684 00:39:02.850 --> 00:39:05.670 insight. I get it. You've got years. You've got decades 685 00:39:06.370 --> 00:39:07.190 of of training. 686 00:39:09.650 --> 00:39:13.850 It's okay. But I yeah. It's a lot of emotions, so I can feel Yeah. 687 00:39:14.050 --> 00:39:17.190 My solar plexus, my stomach a little bit, and the throat. 688 00:39:18.015 --> 00:39:18.515 Yeah. 689 00:39:19.255 --> 00:39:19.755 Yeah. 690 00:39:20.494 --> 00:39:20.994 Yeah. 691 00:39:24.015 --> 00:39:26.835 Man, you've never you've never done anything wrong. 692 00:39:27.855 --> 00:39:31.234 Oh, what the fuck? I'm just so fear to come. 693 00:39:41.610 --> 00:39:42.750 Okay. I can't 694 00:39:43.370 --> 00:39:44.510 more part of me 695 00:39:44.810 --> 00:39:48.405 is feel feel like yeah. Okay. From now on, I can't do it. 696 00:39:48.405 --> 00:39:51.865 I I can look at the results and learn from it, and I can do other things. 697 00:39:52.325 --> 00:39:54.745 Yeah. Something shifted now because I feel 698 00:39:55.045 --> 00:40:00.905 it's still hard a little bit to see from about my behaviors as a further bite back then. But 699 00:40:01.605 --> 00:40:03.145 I think I'm starting to 700 00:40:07.020 --> 00:40:07.520 okay. 701 00:40:08.700 --> 00:40:14.480 So it's self control more like trying things out and learn from them. And okay. So so it's 702 00:40:15.180 --> 00:40:18.000 hard to put virtue of everything, but something's happening. 703 00:40:18.865 --> 00:40:23.585 Yeah. Getting more energy in my body. It feels like Yeah. I feel it. You know what I mean? Yeah. 704 00:40:23.585 --> 00:40:24.485 It comes across. 705 00:40:25.105 --> 00:40:28.405 Yeah. I can hear my own voice. It's like yeah. Yeah. So, 706 00:40:29.755 --> 00:40:30.255 something 707 00:40:33.619 --> 00:40:39.559 it's a little bit new world to look upon, and that's Yeah. It's a completely new world. Yeah. Yeah. 708 00:40:39.700 --> 00:40:40.760 It feels like 709 00:40:41.700 --> 00:40:42.520 what is 710 00:40:44.660 --> 00:40:45.160 I 711 00:40:48.215 --> 00:40:49.035 feel like 712 00:40:50.055 --> 00:40:51.835 more more things are possible. 713 00:40:52.455 --> 00:40:52.955 Uh-huh. 714 00:40:53.735 --> 00:40:55.275 Hell, yeah. Feel like 715 00:40:57.015 --> 00:40:58.155 it can be more unconventional 716 00:40:58.615 --> 00:40:59.435 in some way. 717 00:40:59.735 --> 00:41:00.235 Yeah. 718 00:41:04.579 --> 00:41:05.880 Test things out. 719 00:41:06.980 --> 00:41:07.480 Yeah. 720 00:41:08.660 --> 00:41:09.160 Of 721 00:41:10.339 --> 00:41:11.559 course, not the liberty 722 00:41:11.940 --> 00:41:13.160 to but just 723 00:41:14.019 --> 00:41:16.039 in others of me. But or like 724 00:41:18.674 --> 00:41:20.214 k. Let's try it on 725 00:41:21.035 --> 00:41:21.974 I don't know. 726 00:41:22.515 --> 00:41:25.255 If it doesn't work, then I need to change it. 727 00:41:25.875 --> 00:41:28.214 Yeah. But but it's so Kevin, 728 00:41:28.914 --> 00:41:32.694 it's just a very new way of thinking. If you're like like, 729 00:41:34.330 --> 00:41:36.990 ah, if I in my head. And then what? 730 00:41:38.770 --> 00:41:39.270 So 731 00:41:41.050 --> 00:41:43.470 so this is like shifting philosophy 732 00:41:43.850 --> 00:41:45.790 of life. Very weird. 733 00:41:47.375 --> 00:41:47.875 Exactly. 734 00:41:48.255 --> 00:41:49.715 You're getting it. Yeah. 735 00:41:51.775 --> 00:41:53.155 I'm looking at you now. I mean, 736 00:41:54.015 --> 00:41:54.515 brothers, 737 00:41:57.135 --> 00:42:06.250 when you get when you get the recording of this at some point, like, go back and look at the difference between when we got on this call and, like, now is, like, a whole different version of you. 738 00:42:06.250 --> 00:42:07.069 It's so beautiful. 739 00:42:08.089 --> 00:42:08.589 Yeah. 740 00:42:09.690 --> 00:42:10.190 Yeah. 741 00:42:15.305 --> 00:42:16.924 You never did anything wrong. 742 00:42:18.105 --> 00:42:18.605 It's 743 00:42:19.785 --> 00:42:20.525 so weird. 744 00:42:21.785 --> 00:42:22.605 It's so weird. 745 00:42:26.664 --> 00:42:29.244 And none of what you're gonna do 746 00:42:29.625 --> 00:42:31.460 in in the future is gonna be wrong. 747 00:42:32.640 --> 00:42:34.020 You can't do anything wrong. 748 00:42:36.400 --> 00:42:40.880 Like you're saying before there was at least, of course, I'm not gonna intentionally cause harm. 749 00:42:40.880 --> 00:42:42.660 I would argue nobody intentionally 750 00:42:42.960 --> 00:42:44.180 causes harm. 751 00:42:45.545 --> 00:42:47.965 Like, you never intentionally caused harm to anyone. 752 00:42:49.545 --> 00:42:51.485 Even someone who's, like, sick enough, 753 00:42:51.785 --> 00:42:52.285 like, 754 00:42:52.825 --> 00:43:00.720 in their wiring that they get a kick out of intentionally causing harm to other people only do it because they don't know any better way to be. 755 00:43:01.280 --> 00:43:05.380 Do you know what I'm saying? No. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like, it's it's like, 756 00:43:05.760 --> 00:43:11.780 nobody does that on purpose just for for that if it wasn't because they were already wired to, like, 757 00:43:12.880 --> 00:43:14.900 be rewarded for that or something. You know? 758 00:43:15.845 --> 00:43:17.065 It it helped me because 759 00:43:18.164 --> 00:43:22.505 it's easy when I think about other people. That's very easy to to apply that. 760 00:43:22.885 --> 00:43:24.964 Yeah. It's very new to apply to my 761 00:43:25.924 --> 00:43:27.785 I thought I applied it to myself. 762 00:43:28.420 --> 00:43:30.360 But Right. Now I realize that I haven't. 763 00:43:31.140 --> 00:43:35.880 Well, that's the thing, man. It's you can't see ourselves from outside. Yeah? Right. 764 00:43:36.580 --> 00:43:38.920 You can't read the label from inside the bottle. 765 00:43:40.100 --> 00:43:41.720 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Good metaphor. 766 00:43:42.580 --> 00:43:43.080 Yeah. 767 00:43:44.715 --> 00:43:45.215 Yeah. 768 00:43:46.075 --> 00:43:46.575 Jesus. 769 00:43:47.275 --> 00:43:47.775 What? 770 00:43:51.355 --> 00:43:54.255 I feel like this is gonna be processing for days. 771 00:43:54.955 --> 00:43:55.455 Yeah. 772 00:43:56.075 --> 00:44:00.060 Maybe even for years. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Dude, like, I 773 00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:01.420 I got this, 774 00:44:02.440 --> 00:44:03.340 little over 775 00:44:03.800 --> 00:44:04.940 two years ago. 776 00:44:05.320 --> 00:44:07.820 Literally, the day before my fiftieth birthday, 777 00:44:08.520 --> 00:44:12.040 I had a session with someone who helped me see this for me because I've done the same. 778 00:44:12.040 --> 00:44:13.455 I've been writing the same fucking 779 00:44:14.415 --> 00:44:14.915 script. 780 00:44:15.375 --> 00:44:16.435 And it was, like, 781 00:44:16.895 --> 00:44:18.355 similar to you just like, 782 00:44:18.815 --> 00:44:19.315 woah. 783 00:44:20.015 --> 00:44:24.835 What is this world? Like, this is a whole other reality that I didn't know existed. 784 00:44:25.215 --> 00:44:25.615 And so 785 00:44:26.815 --> 00:44:27.475 and then 786 00:44:28.040 --> 00:44:28.859 I just kinda went 787 00:44:29.800 --> 00:44:30.300 like, 788 00:44:30.839 --> 00:44:32.060 it kinda just, like, 789 00:44:32.440 --> 00:44:35.660 gradually went back to my old ways. And then it was, like, 790 00:44:36.200 --> 00:44:37.740 literally a year later, 791 00:44:38.760 --> 00:44:43.580 it just all came back to me in one day where I just saw a whole shit. I'm still, like, 792 00:44:43.955 --> 00:44:46.915 30 times in a day, I'm, like, catching myself. 793 00:44:46.915 --> 00:44:55.155 Oh, I walked the dog wrong or I woke up wrong or I got out of the bed wrong or I ate wrong or, like, it was, like, everything was wrong. 794 00:44:55.155 --> 00:44:58.835 Like, in a day, it was, like, thirty, forty instances of something. I was, like, finally saw that. 795 00:44:58.835 --> 00:45:00.170 I was, like, woah. Shit. 796 00:45:00.869 --> 00:45:01.849 And and then 797 00:45:02.150 --> 00:45:04.490 on Sunday night, I was at an event, 798 00:45:05.910 --> 00:45:07.670 with a coach, and he was coaching someone. 799 00:45:07.670 --> 00:45:11.930 And, like, this pattern came up again for the person in the audience. And I was like, 800 00:45:12.495 --> 00:45:15.795 I could just feel where am I still playing a version of this? 801 00:45:16.495 --> 00:45:20.115 Where's this because, like, what I noticed for me was, like, I was like, 802 00:45:20.735 --> 00:45:23.955 well, I gotta do things right so that I 803 00:45:24.415 --> 00:45:24.915 get 804 00:45:25.400 --> 00:45:31.820 my business to where I want it to go, but that's still coming from that story that I could possibly fuck up. 805 00:45:32.760 --> 00:45:33.660 Mhmm. Right. 806 00:45:34.120 --> 00:45:38.300 I need to be careful with what I do so I do it right. Like, fuck no. 807 00:45:39.400 --> 00:45:40.460 Mhmm. I don't. 808 00:45:40.895 --> 00:45:41.635 I'm gonna 809 00:45:42.095 --> 00:45:47.075 do whatever I do, and it was the only thing I could do. And we'll see what happens. 810 00:45:47.454 --> 00:45:49.315 And you know what the cool thing is? 811 00:45:50.575 --> 00:45:52.994 The worst thing that can ever happen 812 00:45:53.615 --> 00:45:54.675 is a story. 813 00:46:00.890 --> 00:46:04.670 The worst thing that can ever happen is a story or 814 00:46:05.690 --> 00:46:06.190 words 815 00:46:07.050 --> 00:46:10.605 or even sound if you really wanna get it down. So what I mean is, like, 816 00:46:11.165 --> 00:46:12.945 say you go bankrupt again. 817 00:46:13.725 --> 00:46:19.185 Say you don't make any money and you can't find a job and suddenly you find yourself on the street, 818 00:46:20.045 --> 00:46:20.545 homeless. 819 00:46:21.965 --> 00:46:24.145 Is that a problem? Is that wrong? 820 00:46:24.810 --> 00:46:28.910 It just is what it is except for the story you tell yourself about 821 00:46:29.290 --> 00:46:31.390 it. Yeah. Do you get that? 822 00:46:32.090 --> 00:46:34.490 Oh, yeah. Yeah. Baron Katie has this quote. 823 00:46:34.490 --> 00:46:38.270 She's like That that that wouldn't happen, but I I get the idea still. 824 00:46:38.795 --> 00:46:41.935 What's the worst again? Baron Kenny has a sense. She she says, like, 825 00:46:42.235 --> 00:46:42.735 aside 826 00:46:43.755 --> 00:46:46.575 aside from what you're thinking and believing, are you okay? 827 00:46:47.755 --> 00:46:48.255 I 828 00:46:49.435 --> 00:46:50.175 was like, 829 00:46:52.955 --> 00:46:53.455 yeah. 830 00:46:55.859 --> 00:46:56.760 The only thing 831 00:46:57.299 --> 00:46:58.920 that's a problem is a story. 832 00:46:59.299 --> 00:46:59.799 Yeah. 833 00:47:05.700 --> 00:47:06.200 Yeah. 834 00:47:10.145 --> 00:47:11.525 I can buy into that. 835 00:47:11.905 --> 00:47:12.405 Yeah. 836 00:47:12.865 --> 00:47:15.125 No matter what happens, you'll be fine. 837 00:47:15.825 --> 00:47:20.705 You'll you'll survive until you don't. Right? Yeah. You'll survive until you don't. 838 00:47:20.705 --> 00:47:22.085 And as long as you're alive, 839 00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:26.340 as long as you don't have a story that anything should be different, you're good. 840 00:47:28.000 --> 00:47:28.500 Right? 841 00:47:34.480 --> 00:47:35.460 I made a 842 00:47:36.835 --> 00:47:38.875 big mistake the other day, not in my business. 843 00:47:38.875 --> 00:47:42.115 It wasn't I was dating a woman, and and she she she don't 844 00:47:42.675 --> 00:47:44.855 and and we we ended the dating. 845 00:47:45.235 --> 00:47:46.135 And and I thought, 846 00:47:46.595 --> 00:47:49.480 now I feel like, okay. Yeah. So it was like feel 847 00:47:49.859 --> 00:47:51.400 like that that shifted. 848 00:47:52.660 --> 00:47:53.160 Yeah. 849 00:47:54.260 --> 00:47:54.579 So 850 00:48:08.224 --> 00:48:09.365 So funny because 851 00:48:10.224 --> 00:48:12.085 I went into the this conversation 852 00:48:12.625 --> 00:48:18.645 now in the beginning. I thought it was yeah. Because I I read your emails and I listened to the some 853 00:48:19.350 --> 00:48:24.090 to you and thought this is gonna be really good, but I did not expect this level, 854 00:48:24.390 --> 00:48:24.890 actually. 855 00:48:25.510 --> 00:48:30.650 And and I did not expect it low. I had the high expectation, but this is oh, wow. 856 00:48:31.990 --> 00:48:35.095 I want to apply it as a coach myself. So 857 00:48:35.635 --> 00:48:36.855 Yeah. Of course. 858 00:48:37.315 --> 00:48:39.575 Please do. Yeah. Yeah. 859 00:48:40.755 --> 00:48:41.255 Wow. 860 00:48:42.595 --> 00:48:43.095 Wow. 861 00:48:44.435 --> 00:48:48.855 There's still a lot of emotions. It's like processing still. It's like For sure. 862 00:48:49.980 --> 00:48:52.720 Yeah. Dude, it's a you've been living how old are you? 863 00:48:53.740 --> 00:48:54.480 I'm 40. 864 00:48:54.780 --> 00:48:57.840 40. Yeah. You've been doing this for, you know, three and a half decades. 865 00:49:00.700 --> 00:49:01.760 Give it a minute. 866 00:49:03.174 --> 00:49:03.674 Yeah. 867 00:49:04.055 --> 00:49:05.515 Yeah. Good point. 868 00:49:06.055 --> 00:49:06.555 Yeah. 869 00:49:08.454 --> 00:49:08.954 Yeah. 870 00:49:09.575 --> 00:49:10.075 Wow. 871 00:49:13.494 --> 00:49:13.994 Yeah. 872 00:49:15.700 --> 00:49:19.700 It's like, you have a lot of energy in my body right now. I feel like Fuck. Yeah. 873 00:49:20.100 --> 00:49:22.440 Almost just how to sit down. 874 00:49:25.140 --> 00:49:25.960 Yeah, man. 875 00:49:26.660 --> 00:49:29.400 So you think this is gonna make you show up differently online? 876 00:49:30.395 --> 00:49:31.935 Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Definitely. 877 00:49:32.315 --> 00:49:34.974 And I got new ideas now. Yeah. 878 00:49:35.435 --> 00:49:36.895 I could niche myself 879 00:49:37.515 --> 00:49:41.035 and and and build that app that I wanted to build. And I can Oh. 880 00:49:41.035 --> 00:49:46.470 Or I can I can build it in simpler first, and I can build an app of it later or something? Mhmm. 881 00:49:46.470 --> 00:49:47.450 Because Yeah. 882 00:49:48.390 --> 00:49:53.610 That would be great to how to stop worrying about what what other people think. Yeah. 883 00:49:54.230 --> 00:49:58.970 I could just do that. I I Yeah. I could just do some recordings. I can 884 00:49:59.825 --> 00:50:02.085 use AI to to to to 885 00:50:02.944 --> 00:50:05.924 to what would you say? To to edit it and and all that. 886 00:50:06.305 --> 00:50:08.325 Yeah. Could could just do it. 887 00:50:08.625 --> 00:50:10.805 Tell me. Put this on action. 888 00:50:11.360 --> 00:50:15.060 Awesome. I could do that parallel to looking for a job because 889 00:50:15.600 --> 00:50:16.500 it's just not 890 00:50:17.040 --> 00:50:17.860 either or. 891 00:50:18.320 --> 00:50:18.820 Yeah. 892 00:50:21.440 --> 00:50:24.880 I all all already have a lot of material materials to use. 893 00:50:24.880 --> 00:50:27.255 I could just that already owns the player of platform. 894 00:50:28.454 --> 00:50:34.315 So I could just put that together and record what I need and write write what I need to write. Mhmm. 895 00:50:34.694 --> 00:50:36.555 I could probably make that work 896 00:50:37.015 --> 00:50:39.674 in one or two weeks, have it have have it up and going. 897 00:50:40.134 --> 00:50:40.634 Cool. 898 00:50:41.170 --> 00:50:45.110 Yeah. I don't need to sell high tickets all the time. I could do that. 899 00:50:45.170 --> 00:50:48.070 Then I don't need to do I don't need to do challenges. 900 00:50:48.450 --> 00:50:49.750 I could do with my, 901 00:50:50.770 --> 00:50:51.670 right, newsletter, 902 00:50:51.970 --> 00:50:53.830 some with the followers. And 903 00:50:54.130 --> 00:50:54.370 could 904 00:50:55.515 --> 00:50:56.015 Yeah. 905 00:50:56.555 --> 00:50:57.055 Yeah. 906 00:50:59.035 --> 00:50:59.535 Because 907 00:50:59.835 --> 00:51:02.174 I've been doing that for so long for 908 00:51:03.194 --> 00:51:04.795 four times in 2021, 909 00:51:04.795 --> 00:51:07.135 almost every every client has that problem. 910 00:51:07.680 --> 00:51:11.380 Yeah. Dude, and and you don't have to do a high ticket at all. Right? Like you were saying, 911 00:51:11.839 --> 00:51:15.540 like, some a very broad problem, like, caring what other people think. 912 00:51:16.000 --> 00:51:22.555 Like, sell that at a low ticket, but sell it to a ton of people because it's just something as such broad resonance. 913 00:51:22.615 --> 00:51:23.755 Everybody has that. 914 00:51:24.055 --> 00:51:25.994 Everybody has a version of that. Right? So 915 00:51:26.375 --> 00:51:28.295 so that's a perfectly great way to go. 916 00:51:28.295 --> 00:51:32.395 And then I don't know if you played with the bots and some player, but you can have the bot, 917 00:51:33.069 --> 00:51:33.569 like, 918 00:51:34.510 --> 00:51:36.930 basically train on all your existing content. 919 00:51:37.549 --> 00:51:41.329 And then that's another way, another thing that you can sell people. 920 00:51:42.910 --> 00:51:46.609 Come again? I didn't get that. Yeah. The bot the bots in some player, 921 00:51:47.045 --> 00:51:52.265 you can give it all your courses or all your content, whatever you have, PDFs, whatever you have 922 00:51:52.725 --> 00:51:58.265 as content that it can use to then and you can give it an approach, and then that can 923 00:51:58.805 --> 00:52:04.390 coach people for you. Right? So now they can use the bot to to figure out what's going on 924 00:52:04.849 --> 00:52:05.990 for them to 925 00:52:06.609 --> 00:52:10.390 where like, what's going on when they are concerned, what other people think about them. 926 00:52:10.530 --> 00:52:12.369 And then they can order themselves. Idea that 927 00:52:13.205 --> 00:52:16.185 Oh, totally. Yeah. You could do that in Zippero. I have no idea. 928 00:52:16.485 --> 00:52:19.964 You can't. Yeah. And you can use Zippero. You can sell it. 929 00:52:20.005 --> 00:52:25.625 What they want, but I did not know about that feature. Fuck yeah. That sounds great. Yeah. Do it. 930 00:52:26.325 --> 00:52:28.829 Okay. I'm gonna write that up. Yeah. 931 00:52:29.690 --> 00:52:33.930 Yeah. I and I can connect you with the team or just reach out to the team and say we talk then. 932 00:52:33.930 --> 00:52:36.190 And and, they can totally help you 933 00:52:36.490 --> 00:52:41.175 help you get that done. Thank you. I appreciate it. Yeah. Yeah. What that's that's great. 934 00:52:41.335 --> 00:52:46.075 That's very It's amazing. Yeah. I I love Sinclair, but now I love it even more. 935 00:52:47.175 --> 00:52:47.835 That's awesome. 936 00:52:48.615 --> 00:52:49.115 Yeah. 937 00:52:50.055 --> 00:52:50.555 Yeah. 938 00:52:55.650 --> 00:52:57.510 Oh, oh, oh, it's still processing 939 00:52:57.970 --> 00:52:59.349 motion, but I'm 940 00:52:59.650 --> 00:53:02.470 feeling lots of more energy. It's like coming back. 941 00:53:02.770 --> 00:53:07.830 Now it's the feeling here is gone, but now it's solar plexus is but but still feel 942 00:53:08.934 --> 00:53:11.994 energy is coming back for real. What you're feeling 943 00:53:12.535 --> 00:53:13.994 what you're feeling is you. 944 00:53:16.694 --> 00:53:17.194 Yeah. 945 00:53:17.974 --> 00:53:18.474 Yeah. 946 00:53:21.815 --> 00:53:22.315 Oh, 947 00:53:27.570 --> 00:53:29.350 You, my friend, are pure possibility. 948 00:53:31.650 --> 00:53:33.350 Thank you. Thank you. Yeah. 949 00:53:33.810 --> 00:53:34.950 It feels like 950 00:53:35.570 --> 00:53:37.270 many things are possible now. 951 00:53:37.835 --> 00:53:38.335 Yeah. 952 00:53:42.315 --> 00:53:42.815 Yeah. 953 00:53:44.954 --> 00:53:46.174 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 954 00:53:50.154 --> 00:53:51.855 Yeah. Oh, wow. 955 00:53:55.090 --> 00:54:00.790 I I I my old mindset went in. Okay. Now then I need to do everything right in a sec. Okay. 956 00:54:01.730 --> 00:54:07.030 Right. That's that's a joke for now. But I just realized that. It's like that now there it's like 957 00:54:07.755 --> 00:54:10.255 Call it the performer part and not a good performer. 958 00:54:10.875 --> 00:54:12.015 Everyone performs. So 959 00:54:12.474 --> 00:54:13.295 it's Yeah. 960 00:54:13.755 --> 00:54:18.575 I just do it. Yeah. Just do it and try it out. Yeah. I can do that. 961 00:54:19.595 --> 00:54:20.255 I can 962 00:54:22.829 --> 00:54:25.410 look at my content I already have. 963 00:54:25.710 --> 00:54:26.450 I could 964 00:54:27.069 --> 00:54:27.569 just 965 00:54:28.029 --> 00:54:29.970 add content that that's needed, 966 00:54:30.750 --> 00:54:31.569 and I could 967 00:54:32.990 --> 00:54:34.930 could figure out a way to 968 00:54:35.765 --> 00:54:38.665 market it and and sell it. And Mhmm. 969 00:54:40.165 --> 00:54:42.105 And and just find out the pain points. 970 00:54:42.565 --> 00:54:47.800 What's what what's the effect if you don't if you still care too much what other people think and all that. 971 00:54:47.800 --> 00:54:48.645 Yeah. I could 972 00:54:52.220 --> 00:54:54.619 and allow myself to push on the pain points. 973 00:54:54.619 --> 00:54:59.339 I I'm more of when I'm selling more to the and this is when you're gonna get. 974 00:54:59.339 --> 00:55:01.119 And and that's all also good, but 975 00:55:01.500 --> 00:55:04.640 I I know if I can find the pain point, it's better. 976 00:55:05.115 --> 00:55:11.295 Now I feel like I can allow myself to do that more. I don't think I fully have done that. 977 00:55:12.075 --> 00:55:14.655 I have been marketing a little bit about that, but 978 00:55:14.955 --> 00:55:15.775 but not 979 00:55:16.075 --> 00:55:19.295 close to what I can, actually. Yeah. Yeah. 980 00:55:19.539 --> 00:55:25.240 And I know that most people are motivated more what they wanna get away from. So 981 00:55:27.460 --> 00:55:28.279 I can reach 982 00:55:28.740 --> 00:55:29.480 more people. 983 00:55:30.500 --> 00:55:33.625 So put that up, put the price on it, test 984 00:55:34.005 --> 00:55:35.224 it out. Yeah. 985 00:55:36.484 --> 00:55:37.865 You can't fuck it up. 986 00:55:38.565 --> 00:55:42.345 Yeah. Exactly. That's really I really like that. I can't fuck it up. 987 00:55:42.724 --> 00:55:43.224 Yeah. 988 00:55:44.964 --> 00:55:49.890 Instead of Facebook community, I would do you wanna do the community in Simplero this time? 989 00:55:50.510 --> 00:55:53.410 Because I think that's better if I can have everything there. 990 00:55:53.870 --> 00:55:54.370 Mhmm. 991 00:55:54.750 --> 00:55:55.250 Yeah. 992 00:55:56.110 --> 00:55:56.610 Yeah. 993 00:55:57.390 --> 00:55:57.890 Oh. 994 00:55:58.670 --> 00:55:59.970 Oh, so good, my man. 995 00:56:00.670 --> 00:56:01.810 Yeah. What do you 996 00:56:02.195 --> 00:56:05.015 what do you know to be true now? What do you take with you today? 997 00:56:11.475 --> 00:56:12.375 A new reality? 998 00:56:15.475 --> 00:56:15.955 It's not 999 00:56:16.675 --> 00:56:17.415 so so 1000 00:56:18.410 --> 00:56:19.550 take with me that 1001 00:56:22.010 --> 00:56:23.470 it feels more easy. 1002 00:56:23.850 --> 00:56:26.650 No? Or or may maybe or may seem 1003 00:56:27.370 --> 00:56:28.190 what what is 1004 00:56:28.570 --> 00:56:31.150 the word? Maybe not ease, but it's more simple. 1005 00:56:31.610 --> 00:56:32.110 Simpfulness. 1006 00:56:34.405 --> 00:56:34.905 Yeah. 1007 00:56:35.285 --> 00:56:35.785 Simpiro. 1008 00:56:36.244 --> 00:56:36.905 I'm fantastic. 1009 00:56:38.345 --> 00:56:38.845 And 1010 00:56:40.285 --> 00:56:40.785 and, 1011 00:56:44.165 --> 00:56:48.869 and and also personally, both in business and personally, like, let me go 1012 00:56:49.170 --> 00:56:50.230 of this. What did you 1013 00:56:50.609 --> 00:56:51.810 moderate myself? And that's 1014 00:56:52.490 --> 00:56:55.330 Mhmm. Yeah. Cool. Alright. Yeah. That's 1015 00:56:58.290 --> 00:57:03.830 they just try that out in what in whatever I do. Just Yeah. Experience life in this 1016 00:57:05.065 --> 00:57:05.785 in this, 1017 00:57:06.985 --> 00:57:07.645 new perspective, 1018 00:57:08.345 --> 00:57:09.245 I would say. 1019 00:57:09.785 --> 00:57:10.285 Yeah. 1020 00:57:10.825 --> 00:57:11.325 So 1021 00:57:11.625 --> 00:57:12.125 yeah. 1022 00:57:14.585 --> 00:57:16.365 Amazing, man. Thank you so much. 1023 00:57:16.960 --> 00:57:21.220 Thank you, Calvin. I really, really appreciate this. Thank you so much. 1024 00:57:21.760 --> 00:57:25.540 My pleasure, man. Awesome. It's wonderful to see and to witness. 1025 00:57:25.840 --> 00:57:30.660 Yeah. Keep me posted. Send me an email. Let me know what's transpires over the next week or so. 1026 00:57:30.954 --> 00:57:32.255 Yeah. Yeah. I will. I 1027 00:57:32.635 --> 00:57:36.255 will. Okay. Oh, my. Oh, my. My god. This was amazing. 1028 00:57:38.555 --> 00:57:39.375 Alright. You're 1029 00:57:39.835 --> 00:57:41.855 you're you're you're really good at this. 1030 00:57:42.555 --> 00:57:44.255 Yeah. And and that is 1031 00:57:45.067 --> 00:57:48.588 chilling. I'm underselling you by saying that so that's 1032 00:57:49.067 --> 00:57:53.293 thank you my friend my my brother. Thank you so much. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you.